Stray Observations

In the past week or so, my FDS radar has pinged over men's behaviour that I previously would have gaslit myself about. Thought this might be helpful context for others. Feel free to add yours:

- My neighbour ditched his wife across the street to come talk to me. She was calling him, he wasn't listening and when she yelled over at him, he exasperatedly went back over to help her. For context, this is the guy with an impressive career that ended after multiple allegations of harassment surfaced against him and he retired. He's tried to play up the good husband angle, but his mask slips often. This was the latest

- I was visiting a new friend at her place, her husband was attaching lights around the deck. Before he started, she asked for it to be done a specific way but he completed about half before she noticed he wasn't doing it right. His response? Told her to have another drink and she'd forget about it. He went and fixed everything, but his comment made me feel a tinge of discomfort in my chest. It was contempt.

- Two men in my professional sphere both made shitty comments about having to provide for their families. Umm yeah, bud. You've gotta provide for the family you chose to have.

I'm so grateful to FDS for teaching women that these little moments are exactly what he thinks of you.