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Today, I visited some of my older friends who are in their 80s. They adopted a 1-year-old pit bull from a shelter 3 months ago. Their carpet has been ruined from the dog peeing on it constantly despite the shelter insisting she was house trained. She chews on furniture, has destroyed 2 chairs so far, and is always jumping on top of people. She has basically ruined the poor woman's life, since the man doesn't lift a finger around the house. The wife is covered in scars from the dog jumping on her so forcefully. Her husband doesn't even care. The man chose the dog, his wife didn't even get a say, and then he left her with all the responsibility while he gets the title of "dog owner."
I'm not kidding when I say I'd divorce a man over this nonsense. Bring the dog back to the shelter, kick the scrote to the curb, and take yourself out for piña coladas afterward to celebrate this double jerk-ectomy.
Stuff like this makes me want to scream when I hear conservatives complain about "women don't want to get married anymore!" Like, we never wanted to get married, it's just that now we have a choice. We don't want to spend our whole lives being your caretakers. We want lives of our own.
Stop taking the "long, happy marriage" narrative at face value. And ask yourself what that woman is sacrificing to keep up the image of a partnership. I'm not saying happy marriages don't exist, only that you should think twice before making a lifelong commitment to someone who's been socialized to see you as his servant.
I let men know upfront that I’m not willing to live with a dog. Too much work, too messy, and I was attacked as a child so I’m scared of them. This is a dealbreaker for 95% of men, but so be it. If my husband brought home a dog, especially a pitbull, there would be no compromise. I’d leave immediately and tell them that in 24 hours I’ll be back and if the dog isn’t gone by then I’ll be packing the rest of my things and filing for divorce. They can buy out my half of the house during the divorce since the dog will destroy it anyway. I can’t think of anything that would have me filing for divorce faster, since any man who knows me will know my feelings on this and if he does it anyway the relationship is not salvageable.
Bring the dog back to the shelter and tell the husband that the dog ran away. Pit bulls are a lot of work and their tendency to be aggressive at the drop of a hat is a hell no from me.
The shelter is insane here, too. Who gives a dog like that to an elderly couple without any experience with the breed? That's setting everyone up for misery. The people will be completely overwhelmed and stressed and the dog will run wild because there is nobody actually meeting its physical and mental needs until a tragedy happens and it either runs on front of a car or bites someone and gets put down. I feel sorry for both the wife AND the dog. The husband and the shelter people are the bad guys here.
I volunteer for a shelter and we would never, ever give a dog like this to an elderly couple or someone who doesn't have the time, strength and experience to actually meet its needs. That's a dog for younger people who have experience with dogs, know about the needs and challenges of a breed like this and who are willing and able to invest the time and energy to train it and channel all that energy properly. Pit bulls can be great dogs if trained properly. But they are strong, active, intelligent and have a well developed hunting instinct. If you don't channel all that properly through lots of training and discipline you and the dog are going to be miserable.
In my experience men who insist on getting dog breeds like this (you know, the "dangerous and edgy looking ones") are mostly just small-dicked losers who want something "scary" to show off and don't give a fuck about the dog's needs, the needs of other family members and being a responsible owner, which is why we are extremely careful about who let adopt these dogs. We've had men like you describe show up and demand to adopt dogs like this and while we talk to them it usually turns out that they have no idea about the reality of owning a dog like this and don't plan to be involved in the care and training at all. "The wife will walk it" ("Your 65 year old limping wife will walk a young, energetic, not fully trained dog that weighs as much as her three times a day at least? You wife with zero experience at training dogs will teach it to obey all basic commands perfectly? Really?").
This is why I love r/dogfree on Reddit haha