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Hi, Queens
Today I was at the pool with my friends and my son. It's a big public pool that we go to few times in the summer and we love it.
My son and I got hungry so we ordered Uber eats. When it was time to meet at the entrance, I waited for the Uber driver near the main door. A man comes behind me, who I thought was waiting for someone? He is short, bald with a beer belly 🤢 🤮 ... I knew he was middle eastern from the necklace he was wearing. He asked me, what are you waiting for? (Why is it your business?🙄). I said Uber eats. He said oh that's smart 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ ... he then asked where I live and I said far from here. He just moved to the city and is getting to know the area. He then asked where I'm from and I told him so he started to speak to me in Arabic. Asking if I know the language well, bla bla .. I'm still just waiting for the Uber driver because I asked him to meet me by the main entrance 😫
The Uber driver came and this MAN decided to go pick up the food for me and bring it to me ... whatever I didn't say anything but it was so unnecessary and I'm not interested 🤢
He gave me my food then asked me if I have a bf .. ew .. I said No and I'm not interested. He said for real? Not even new friends? I said I don't need new friends and just stormed off.
I was disgusted and so grossed out. That's not how you ask a woman out you creep.
That's an experience in real life of someone I have never met or talked to so even organically you need to vet even harder. YUCK!
Sorry you had to go through this.. women definitely need to vet harder, especially when it comes to middle eastern men or men from third world countries in general, since those are the ones who peak the highest in misogyny, entitlment and their maddona/whore mindset...you think your western scrotes are bad? Well think again cause those scrotes are worse..thanks to their culture & clut in which are a breeding ground for woman hating... And this is coming from a middle eastern woman.
The "can't we at least be friends" move is such a trap. Scrotes will guilt trip women into being friends, then guilt trip them into bed. Absolutely sick.
It happens when women are standing still! Think bus stop, around the water cooler, waiting anywhere. If you are on the move, 99% of men won’t and/or can’t approach. I feel like we are always on the run and when we do stop, fiercely defending our space and our right to be left and let the hell alone!
gross. sorry you even had to deal with that. It makes me so mad that we have to tip toe around their feelings or else they get angry and possibly violent. I have RBF and the last time some scrote told me to smile, I told him to say something funny and I would. He got defensive and didnt like that, I guess he thought it was funny and cute and I would smile. Im 51 and waaaaaay past giving a shit what men think.
his entitlement is simply unbelievable
"I don't need new friends."is the best response! They're always inserting themselves where they don't belong! I hope you still got to enjoy your meal after that!
That’s gross!!! I also think it’s gross and inappropriate for men to flirt with you in front of your kid/s. I get this a lot. Especially those waiters in Frankie & Bennys. I won’t be going there again. Twice by two different waiters 😭
Ew ew ew.
By picking up your food without you asking he was "Loan Sharking" you. It's a manipulation tactic spoken about in the Gift of fear by Gavin de Becker. They offer unsolicited help to make you feel in their debt.
I think these scrotes genuinely lack the ability to understand that we have actual lives and aren’t just in standby waiting for a man to talk to us.
Some men have no shame!!!
Last month, I was taking a break at a gas station WITH MY SON (it was almost midnight, btw) while driving back home. This was after coming from Tulsa: from visiting an old friend. We still had about three hours left from making it home.
While he was walking around the entrance of the mini-market and I was having a cigarette, some random dude (in the passenger seat of some car) was all: “hey baby, give me a ride back home.” I was flabbergasted!!! Since I wasn’t fully caffeinated just yet and I had just taken my last Aderall, I was all: “oh, but I’m going in direction to Austin/San Antonio, that seems out of your way”. Then, a LADY from the driver’s seat popped up (looked visibly upset, and with reason) and she was all: “he high and drunk, don’t listen to him baby girl”.
Not only did my son had to witness that, but that lady was most likely his romantic partner.
If there's one thing that sends me into a red hot nearly white rage every time, is men who think that by doing something helpful, they can expect you to get on your knees and give them a blowjob right there and then in broad daylight. I never, ever fall for anything helpful from men and they hate it when I refuse their help in anything, especially when I'm alone in public.
LV men don't give a shit about anybody but themselves. Always question his motives as to why he wants to suddenly assist you. I'm sorry you went through this, OP.
You had a far too long convo with this man. You don't owe him shit, no need to be polite. "I'm busy, would you leave me to it? Thanks". No need to wait for him to answer the rhetorical question. I appreciate that's a high level of assertive and it takes practice. You could have said "I'm waiting for my husband, he's coming straight from boxing practice." Instead of being honest about the uber eats business. Alternatively, you could have walked him back towards the pool, insisted to hold a door open and when he went though say "ok, nice speaking bye" and let the door shut in his face then gone back to wait for your food. You don't owe scrotes an ounce of your attention and certainly not your anger.
Men will find any way to make normal conversations into transactions lol. “Woman want food? I gib food. Woman MY woman now?”