This is a rant about how I had the misfortune of meeting one of the worst person in history.
My friends organize this tennis gathering. I did not see the message so realistically I wasn't attending, but then she sends me this message asking if I was going to attend, I was like you know what? Sure, I love tennis.
On the day of the event, I show up early and I'm hitting a few rounds with some of my friends. All of a sudden I hear this obnoxious laugh that throws me off balance and I completely miss the ball! I turn around to see who's making the noise and ofc it's the guy.
After the game, my friend (the girl that asked if I was coming), her bf, and the guy approach me. I finally understand why she asked me if I was coming. It turns out, she wanted to introduce me to this guy. Since her bf lives a bit far from where we live, it would be nice if him and I became a couple or atleast "hit it off", so that they could see eachother more.
Not to diss men who have this appearance or even people that like this look, but he's not my type. I can tell that he puts effort into his appearance but his aesthetic is not my type. His hair is bleached covered by a winter beanie that is two sizes too small, he has a tattoo sleeve of random tattoos, he has multiple piercings, and his facial hair is meticulously designed in this way that is like wolverine, it's very ugly. In addition, he showed up wearing tattered clothing. The reason why I believe he puts much effort into looking like this is because is a heavy scent of detergent coming off him, so atleast he does laundry. Also, his ripped t-shirt is actually a vintage item that is worth around $200. He does have money, but he purposefully chooses to look as such.
Not to mention, he has poor sportsmanship. He would argue about points, and and make up excuses about why he sucked. At one point, the whole group didn't see where the ball landed in our court. In this case, the rule is to just let the other team have a point since no once saw, but he kept arguing that it's out. There was one time that I saw the ball hit the line indicating that it was in, and he kept arguing with me that it was out!!! That told me that he's a swindler.
Anwyays, I still don't know what he does for a living. It was a bunch of word salad. He said her works in "building and design". I asked for clarification and wanted to know if he's the one building the houses or an architect. He doesn't make the clarification and goes on to say that him and brother own the company. 🤦🏻♀️ That's not what I asked.
By the end of the game, he literally says I'm going to be his partner for the whole entire night. Nooooo 😱😱😱 in my head, I thought, No, I'm trying to get away from you, you suck, and I don't like you. But I resist, and I said, "oh really? Your partner?" Then I proceed to leave as another friend say they have room for another player. So I dodge the bullet and offer myself up, and continue to do so for the entire night.
At this point, he's trying to get my attention. I'm talking to my girls friends and he sits next to me. At least he's polite and waiting for me to finish the conversation.
Towards the end, I'm saying farewell to everyone. He giving all the girls and guys handshakes, and when he approached me I'm politely giving him a handshake and he pulls me in for a hug. I don't hug him back. I'm just waiting for him to finish hugging me. 😤😅
He ends the night saying that he's gonna come to these events every night to see me. 🥲 After hearing that, I just went signed up for four months of hot yoga, so I won't be seeing him since I am terrified of running into him.
You should drop that friend. Seriously.
Throwing a man like that on you as a "surprise date" without warning to please her boyfriend ("Since her bf lives a bit far from where we live, it would be nice if him and I became a couple or atleast "hit it off", so that they could see eachother more.") is LV and dangerous behaviour.
She didn't give a shit about your comfort or interests here and basically pimped you out to a total stranger because he was her boyfriend's buddy. That woman is dangerous.
Dump the friend
Hot yoga sounds way better than tennis anyway.
Use it to stay away from that creep and that crappy friend.
"His hair is bleached covered by a winter beanie that is two sizes too small, he has a tattoo sleeve of random tattoos, he has multiple piercings, and his facial hair is meticulously designed in this way that is like wolverine, it's very ugly."
I can see this scrote perfectly in my mind! Thanks for the amusing imagery. 🤣
And yeah, as other people have told you--it's best to distance yourself from your female "friend".
Once again, a male has to ruin a good thing for us, so we have to pivot to something else for our safety.
violating ALL your boundaries in just a few hours. also, what kind of friend doesn’t “alert” you or ask for consent first. that’s common sense, she looks down on you & probably felt she was doing charity.