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Today I made this general tweet about gardening.
"Today I’m planting a bunch of low-maintenance shrubs & plants in my garden because I can no longer handle the high-maintenance ones."
A man responds with this.
"Can you recommend a list of low-maintenance shrubs? Im looking for the same. My lower back can't take much more. :P"
Just understand I'm laughing in spite of being annoyed at the audacity of this man.
Some random, unknown man is asking me to DO FREE LABOR for him out of the blue. A list of this nature involves a lot of research OR expertise.
I don't interact with this man. I have no idea who he is.
There is no limit to what men will ask women to do for them.
My response wasn't annoyed or rude like it usually is. I hope my response made him feel stupid. But since this man has NO BOUNDARIES, I decided to start my response with the word "no."
"No, I can’t. It depends on what zone you live in. A local nursery or extension office is a good place for that advice."
He didn't flip out or call me rude like most of them often do.
Seriously wtf?
The thing is, he didn't actually want a plant list, and if you gave him a list, he wouldn't have done anything with it. He justed wanted conversation with a gorgeous (I'm guessing) lady, and thought assigning you homework was the way to do that. Because he's a dumb moid who deep down believes that women were put on this earth as appliances for male convenience, and that we love it.
They're so accustomed to us doing for them that when a woman says no they think she's being obstinate and cruel. I have so many stories of men trying to extract free skilled labor from me that I could write a book. My ability to say no despite their sob stories is part of the reason I gained my nickname of Steelheart.
When I finished my chicken tractor I posted it to the appropriate groups on FB for some feedback on my design (so I can improve on the next one). I had like 3 different men wanting me to build them one. After I said no one of them tried to offer me $500 to do it. Materials alone cost more than that, and he got super pissy when I told him that. I just blocked him.
It's scary how pissed men get when a random stranger refuses to go out of her way to act as their personal secretary. It's peak entitlement.
"I can't be bothered to do this myself but I am totally entitled to that stranger's time and labor. How dare she refuse to research something for me that I could have googled myself in 5 minutes".
You should have just ignored home and let him simmer in his scrote anger. Nothing angers them as much as being ignored….l
But you did give him advice in the end. He might have flipped out if you stuck to No I can't.
I had a similar experience with scrote audacity: years ago i had just parked my car in my work garage, when a middle aged man (older than me at the time) walked straight past several men to ask me if he was allowed to park there. I told him that you had to have a permit to park in that garage, and he said he was in town for some kind of event. I told him that there is a public parking garage under the capital building, and he said that he tried parking there, but it was full. And then he just stood there looking helpless, like he expected me to do something. Annoyed, I sighed and started to reach for my phone. Here I was already running late, and now I had to help this dumbass find a place to park. And then I remembered: Wait. No I don’t. He has a phone. He’s just as capable of using it to look up parking in my city as I am. So I dropped my phone back in my purse and said “Well, good luck.” and continued on my way.