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I wrote a post earlier about how my friend's fiancé is terrible and how I'm worried about her future marriage. Now I'm sure that he can't change at all.
I went over to her house recently because of course, her scrote of a man treated her like shit. She didn't get a promotion to a job she really wanted and the only thing she was missing was experience. She was crying because she's put her all in it and is very career oriented.
He didn't comfort her when he heard and saw her crying and instead went and played golf for 8 hours, I kid you not. I offered to come over with chocolate at six and spend time with her and I stayed until ten.
Funniest thing is that when he did not get a promotion, he was crying, got drunk and vomited on their deck and slept there. She was with him the entire time yet he can't do this for her.
She told me that he told her "I put a ring on your finger so of course I care about you" in response to her crying because she was disappointed. Predictably, she told me, he doesn't spend time with her and it's been like this since they've been together. She can count on her hand how many times they've had a date. And she wishes he'd bring her flowers.
I just wanted to vent, I had a bad feeling when we first met, and I thought he was just introverted but now I know he was just a piece of shit lmao.
She knows something is wrong here so it's probably best to just affirm her feelings and let her know she's being heard and that she's not crazy. Just be careful about being used as an emotional jumping ground while she keeps going back to him for more neglect and disrespect. Some women can't be saved until they choose to save themselves.
Guys who act like that have been my basically most of my dating history--guaranteed she knows something is wrong, it's just so hard to leave. Loving friends have made all the difference for me and I'm sure you being on her side means the world to her. I'm sorry your friend is going through that, but it's wonderful that you're being so present for her
Have you heard Lillith’s subtle strategy for getting girls to dump their bf’s? It’s on the podcast and she says plant seeds of doubt.
Wow what a guy, putting a ring on her finger but not actually marrying her.
You’re doing the right thing by supporting her and helping validate any creeping thoughts she has that he’s not treating her properly. It’s possible that with your help, she can fully open her eyes and escape before she really traps herself in a marriage. But while you are an incredible friend, it’s possible she’ll still stay with him despite your efforts, and it will be very sad to witness.
welcome to the circus. watch out for quicksand, try not to be distracted.