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So I'm not prepared to have a debate about OLD but I do need a little rant, ladies. I was in a good mood until I turned up at my favourite coffee shop this afternoon to see a recent scrote sat in the window; this was after I recommended it to him as a good place to work from. Turns out he's been there the last 2/3 times I've rocked up and I'm PISSED that i felt uncomfortable enough to change my sipping location today.
Anyway, I digress.
I went on three dates with a promising guy before Xmas. Promising in that he paid for each outing, initiated our dates and we had lots in common work-wise. I fancied him.
I overlooked some less-than-stellar stuff like him not telling me much about his home life, not confirming plans until very last minute and not paying me any compliments/making any suggestion he found me attractive.
Anyway, after a bit of witty text flirting after date 3 I was looking forward to meeting again (albeit wondering why the dude hadn't kissed me) and then realised he'd updated his main photo on OLD. Whoops! Message received. I moved the fuck on. I didn't message/reach out as, even pre-FDS, that's not my style.
So in a moment of weakness i re-downloaded tinder today (I don't need anyone to tell me what a bad idea this is) and he's gone and fucking 'liked' me. We haven't communicated in over a month.
In amongst this batch of 'likes' was a handful of other none-starter shitheads who I've blocked and deleted - either following a date that didn't happen or, again, after handful of disappointing dates.
I don't need reminding that OLD is like circling through trash but I genuinely have no other way of meeting guys at the moment and wanting to see who's about. Turns out it's the same old local ratbags but with some additions!
I don't understand why they try their luck in this way or what they're trying to achieve with this scrote-y microdose of attention. Does anyone have a read on this?
I'm a little drunk RN and more amused than annoyed but whyyyyy. It's like, you have had enough of my time. Go AWAY.
Rant done x
They like feeling like they have options. Some of them are barely interested in dating anyway just want a woman to text.
They're looking to get their sexual needs met. That is ALL they are about. Making contact is simply maintaining a connection with you, because he hopes to f*ck you in the future when he has a dry spell.
The same losers who were on apps when I was in my 20s are still on there, 10 years later. I saw one while my friend was swiping. They like the carousel 🎠
I'm guessing they saw you back on the app, assumed it's because you weren't having any luck with anyone else so you might be hard up enough to try them again.
Or they're just dumb and didn't even realize they've already had some kind of failed interaction with you.
This is exactly why I keep my favorite restaurants/bars/locations TOP SECRET from men. The system goes dating -> engaged -> marriage -> kids -> I reveal the hidden gem restaurants. Loose lips sink ships!
In all seriousness, queen, men will always value getting off and getting female attention above…. anything, including their dignity. Laugh at them & enjoy your drink!
Can someone stop me from wondering why we are not vetting over phone / video chats beforehand? If you want to weed out most of the incompatible men take your time, vet, find references, web search….
Idk, sometimes I wonder if OLD is better than using nothing and feeling like a hideous bridge troll from lack of IRL male attention. 😅😂 But in all seriousness, OLD sucks. Itt makes me wonder if those guys have a hazy memory, or like others said, they want to pretend they have tons of options.