Men will literally rather stay in a dead relationship than have the balls to break up with you

he told you he can't go on...and then proceeded to go on? 🤣 what a total fucking idiot.

Indeed. One time, in the same conversation (which happened after the breakup), he claimed that he had wanted to call it quits many years before and should have done so, and also that he would have given it another go had I not just given up, and that it was a completely unilateral decision. Lol. Can't get his own story straight. Needless to say he's a manipulative narc.

Lvm are way more worried about being seen as an asshole than actually being an asshole.

They're fine with being low value as long as other people perceive him as high value.

100% true

I second this. Nothing insults a man more than forgetting they exist.

Same here and I don’t even care about emotional detachment. I just leave and deal with pain later in my own. Men stays in dead relationships cause for them it’s better than staying single.

This was Joe Alwyn with Taylor Swift

Exactly. For them, it's "be miserable with someone I don't like and respect rather than be miserable and alone"

My boyf at the time and I were watching a tv show about a really nasty guy who had murdered someone and was in prison. Somehow he also had a gf who visited him in jail. My ex said ‘Aw, he has a girlfriend, he can’t be all bad, somebody loves him’. I turned my head and stared at him, gobsmacked. He genuinely believed that not having a partner meant you were defective and unloved and that simply being in a relationship was a sign of good character. In his crazy brain, this murdering man was a 'better' human than some loser who doesn't have a partner. I reminded him that Hilter had a gf: he had no response 💩. These scrotes seem to have the lowest opinions of themselves, and very warped ideas about relationships.

I can relate completely. The downfall (which took almost two years) and aftermath of my last relationship also wrecked my mental and physical health to the point I had so many regrets and felt robbed of so much precious time. It really set me back in my career too. Like your ex, mine also gave me a "great life" on the outside and we seemed like we were made for each other, but in actuality he had just succeeded at molding me into someone who was easier to control. The "great match" was not so great once I started enforcing boundaries in earnest. I also realized I was nothing but an appliance. When we broke up, he regularly lamented how hard it was to live alone now. Not once in the long process of separation did he tell me he actually wanted me back for me, it was more like he was trying to convince me that he was entitled to another chance and how wrong it had been of me to leave him. One time he alluded to actually missing my personality, but topped it off with another slew of accusations of how much I had "changed" (I never actually did, I just found my backbone again) and thereby hurt him. So much word salad. I wasn't dumb enough to fall for it anymore but it still messed me up. I finally realized how much life this man was sucking out of me, even after I had gotten rid of him. I wasn't able to stand exchanging even two sentences with him. When I collected the last few things from our apartment he actually had the audacity to try and emotionally manipulate me again with a whiny child voice and fake tears (after having refused to give back some things that belonged to me!). I was so done and didn't return his "well wishes" when I finally walked out of there. People like this really and truly make you crazy. Getting out was the best affirmation of my own strength. I know it's hard not to lament the time and energy lost but I'm trying my best to be grateful these days. I'm grateful I'm still here. He didn't break me and your ex scrote didn't break you and we can be proud of that.

"He broke up with me in his mind when we started discussing me taking a masters degree abroad for 1 year". Girl, are you me? I feel like that was the exact moment my ex had checked out. I'm an immigrant in his country and I was seriously toying with the idea of going back to my country for 1.5 years to do by Master's. He was sad, but didn't oppose. After that, surely out relationship took turn towards its end. Interesting 🤔

I had a guy I'd been dating a few months tell me he loved me and asked me to move across the country to be with him. I was taken aback because it was way too fast for me, and I said so.

A week later, he cheated and dumped me over email and rewrote our entire relationship, saying we were never together and it was never serious.

A year later, I ran into a woman who turned out to be his fiancee who'd been his forever girlfriend for years.

We'd been friends for 2 years before we started dating, and I had no idea he had a girlfriend. Total sociopath.

Hmm, my advice would be not to get too attached and mirror his actions. If he pulls away, do the same. If he doesn't react and try to work on the relationship, just let him go. Unfortunately, I don't think there's anything we can do to protect ourselves from this (because scrotes gonna scrote), but we can take preventive meassures to minimaze the potential emotional fallout.

Unfortunately I don't really think there's a solution, but this is why FDS requires men to invest upfront and continue to invest in you consistently every step of the way. We can't stop men from making stupid decisions, but at the very least we can make those stupid decisions costly.

I know this is a good start, but my ex consistently invested in me and still pulled out this crap. Perhaps I'm biased but I don't think that's the green flag that everyone says it is. There are many wrong reasons to invest in someone.