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No matter how small it is, not giving up when you say no to phone number exchange to not backing off when you display discomfort at his reqest. Or touching your belongings while you already said that you don't appreciate that is a sign of a predator.
If he's not a predator then the slightest hesitation, the smallest sign of discomfort towards him translates to a No in his mind.
When you say I'm not okay with that/ I don't want to discuss that/ I rather keep that to myself and he doesn't immediately changes the subject then you know what to do. Don't give these men the benefit of the doubt because If he can't respect something so simple such as not being persistent in getting his way then how is he going to respect serious non negotiable boundaries?
There was an older scrote and my mother who is a pickme talks to anyone to get validation, He then talks about that he wants to have more children at 70, he already has a son of 12 years old and wants a baby girl. Deep down I kind of knew what he's upto and he started to ask for my age I said I don't want to answer that, he seemed a bit offended and raised his voice at me asking again I said no and then he turned to my mother asking the same question and instead of backing me up she told him my age. I lost my temper and I snapped at him " What part of No don't you understand? I made very clear I don't want to answer you" I made it clear I'm not comfortable telling you this and you should have stopped after the first No" then he tried to do some damage control saying he just wanted to know how level headed I am. I know that's nonsense because he wanted to know If I'm under 30 or above 17 to determine If I'm "Breedable but not underage" like most of these dusty kings like doing.
A man who persistently whines to get his wish never does it for your own interest but for his own persuit to use women.
I told my mother I'm not going out with her again because In my opinion she truly let me down. She did say It won't happen again but she's an unrecoverable pickme and I can't trust that it won't.
This is my number one vetting tool. I will test this boundary a lot on the first few weeks. I'll NO a lot, and step back and watch the reaction. What I've learned is that, nothing makes the mask fall faster than the word NO. Abusers can't stand the word NO. Abusers feel entitled to your body, your time, your energy, your attention. So when you say NO, they can't handle it. And the worse the abuser, the quicker the mask will fall. It's quite scary to watch. The last guy I told him NO 3 times, and he dropped his mask in only 6 days.
I feel like this is the Pareto Principle of vetting. Most men can be vetted correctly just by the one sheer act of saying "no".
I applaud you. He is not entitled to that information and his persistence was entitled and predatory. Scrotes in the street or in cabs constantly ask me about my age and I always feel uncomfortable doing so. But I answer with random lies to keep the peace and avoid getting a bad passenger rating in the app. I will try to stop doing that and telling them 'no' instead.