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WTF is wrong with men. They're incredibly draining and rude. First I want to say I have purposely not had a proper conversation with any man outside of work /family for over two years. I try to avoid men as much as possible. Because of this, I genuinely forgot how incredibly exhausting it is to deal with men outside of work/business. I acknowledge I messed up by continuing the conversation but I feel this man so slyly slipped in to derail everything. Perhaps I didn't notice immediately because I've been so out of practice when it comes to interacting with scrotes. I wish I had walked away sooner from the conversation.
I was excitedly explaining a business idea and something new that I learned to my cousin at her birthday outing. A scrote interjected. He was invited one of her friends. I found myself looped into an exhausting conversation where he completely ignored or missed the point that I was trying to make. I pointed out that he derailed the conversation and he responded with "well I'm actually just trying to debate, blah blah....." and goes into a whole verbal manifesto of his own experiences to "show" why I'm wrong. None of it had anything to do with the point I was making.
I started to feel very frustrated, and mentally drained from the mental and emotional exhaustion of how much this scrote managed to derail the conversation. His constant talking was giving me a headache. I felt gaslit and pretended someone was calling me. Left him to continue mansplaining to my cousin. Went to the bathroom, washed my face and avoided him for the rest of the night.
Also post FDS, I am also noticing how rude male customer service reps, Uber Drivers, salesman etc are. Like male Uber drivers complain about going even a tiny bit out of their way. Pre-FDS, I didn't think much about of it. Perhaps because I had so much internalized misogyny that I used to be part of the crowd who also expected women to be nice all the time but unconsciously did not have the same expectation of men. Today I went to pick up a car rental and the Uber driver and I couldn't find the place. It wasn't on her map or my Google maps as it was newly built. However, she spent an extra 15 minutes trying to help me find the place because she didn't want to leave me in the middle of nowhere even though we were in a safe area and it was morning. I tipped her well. Dealing with women is such a massively positive difference compared to dealing with men.
I also hate giving men my business. I got cross with my pickme mother last week because we went to buy some furniture for her bedroom. The male service rep was this incompetent old guy who was just terrible at his job, rude, horribly dressed and just kept talking about his Trump loving political views about how immigrants are bad (we're immigrants) and nobody wants to work these days. The irony is that he couldn't even do or dress properly for his job. He didn't pay much attention to our questions about the furniture.
My mother is incredibly impatient and couldn't wait a few mins longer for the woman sales rep who was very well dressed and professionalism. Urghh! SO this old scrote got a commission from her purchase.
I use car service for most of my transportation. I so prefer having a woman driver but they are very much in the minority.
Literally had a scrote driver 2 days ago ask if he could just drop me off at the corner instead of driving around the corner to actually drop me off in front of my building.
Of course I said no, please drop me at my destination but wtf. All they got is audacity.
Same girl. I have successfully avoided scrotes for over 2 years. But i do hang out at my local beach, and one time I went by myself, kinda buzzed to see this Doors cover band I like, and I made friendly conversation with a guy at the bar and he immediately thought I was hitting on him and even went as far as grab my waist to pull me towards him. Like JFC!! I pushed him off and ran out and never got to enjoy the band..I seriously forking hate men!
A While back when I was in the conception stage of my business, a friend of a friend of mine was helping me with some heavy lifting. He had studied business and wanted to know about my business. It was just us two present. I politely but assertively shared that I did not want to share (in order to avoid mansplaining, his 'advice/help', gaslighting, devaluing, debate , just the typical things that I anticipated would be in strore for me if I were to open it up to him, etc etc etc 🙄). He tried to 'wear me down', but I stood my ground. Frankly, it was literally none of his business. Well, He was livid. He was infuriated, ego bruised, sulked. Grown man...
I think he 'complained' about it to our mutual friend, who then thought poorly of me for it.
A woman having ANY BOUNDARIES is basically something to be burnt at the stake for. Can you imagine if I'd ACTUALLY shared my business info with him? Entitled POS. It actually contributed (amongst other things) to the erosion of other said mutual friendship.
I just had a new neighbour move in next door. Male. Will do my best to not engage AT ALL.
It's just not worth the drama.
If a man is HV, it will be obvious. After living most onf my life in illusion, I now understand that, sadly, tragically, but honestly: NV scrotism is the status quo.
I know exactly what you mean OP. I suppose all we can do, on a personal level, is try to only do business with women as much as possible and if you do business with a man who acts rude or unprofessional, don't hesitate to cut him off and tell anyone who will listen of your bad experience.
Couldn't have said it any better. It's impossible to have a decent conversation with an average man: he either whiteknights and sucks up to you in hopes that you'll have sex with him, or he doesn't take your words seriously and talks down just because he sees women as children. They really don't see us as human huh
Ive successfully avoided my neighbors for 2.5 years where I live, however, just last week, I went out to throw out the trash, and a male neighbor was locked out. I let.him in, cause if I was locked out, I'd want to be let in too, but then he walked behind me back to our building where he lives on the 3rd floor and me on the first and that meant I had to walk into my apartment first before he did, which means he now knows who I am and where I live. NOW I am feeling a little anxious that this male will try to knock on my door for whatever reason just to try to talk to me..
As someone who just returned from her final- and of course disappointing- app date, I feel this. Dude decided it would be a good idea to “call me out” before even sitting down about how I “wasn’t asking him questions about himself” when we were texting on app. This is someone who also made it known he doesn’t have a ton of options yet he decided to sabotage this one straight out the gate. Honestly, men are so draining.