LVMs Have No Friends

Lmao yeah the "We don't talk about that stuff", I have heard that so many times when asking questions about a bf's friend. Surface-level, basic questions, like "Where did he grow up?" or "Where does he work?" cannot always be answered.

It makes me sad that men seem to not be able or interested enough to relate to one another as people. Do they.... just not care about their friends' personal life? How are they even friends, then...?? Very confusing to me.

Then they complain they don't have any emotional support systems like women do. Like dude it's on you to build one

This is definitely a thing. There are very few with actual healthy friendships but it's a good vetting tool because the ones I've met that did have good friendships were much more likely to be HVM. I've come across so many men who shit talk their friends to random girls as though it's a competition. Like, 'I have this one friend who constantly cheats on his girlfriend!' or 'My friend is only 4 foot and he's SO ugly!!' or 'My friend refuses to read books written by women. He's scared it would make him gay hehe'. LVM friendships work to enable and simultaneously backstab each other. I don't think they realise how telling they are or how it reflects on themselves.

Almost all of my exes just had male friends that they constantly talked shit to. And you see these videos going around social media where the dude is like: I need a napkin. And then another dude attacks another dude, ripping his shirt off of his body and handing the tatters to the first dude. It is so violent. Men laugh at it. I can’t imagine doing that with my friends, nor a man ever doing that to me and it being ok. LVM hang with LVM and so you gotta vet for HVM by seeing who’s around him. Good men have good male friends and can be just as gentle and open with them.

The same people who hang out for hours to kill virtual monsters are the same people that won't bother creating a social circle with that they can use to support one another.

I notice there's usually a mooching dynamic with LV friend groups. The one with the most money is always the host. The moochers mooch the hosts weed/alcohol. The moochers all talk shit on him too. Its kinda sad but also the host should've cut these people out of their life right after highschool but they didn't.

This is so true. The two LVMs I dated with large “friend” groups talked shit about them all the time. His “friends” did the same, and constantly tried to hit on me when he wasn’t there.

They either don't have any friends and are proud of the fact, or they talk shit about their friend in front of you.

My ex is def a LVM. He has friends, but they're even worse than him if that's even possible lol. They all do drugs together which is why I think they're friends in the first place. 🙄

when women don't have friends it's mostly because they care too much about other people and others don't reciprocate. and then they have to go through therapy to build self-esteem and establish boundaries so they don't get used by people.

when men don't have friends it's because they don't show any care towards other people, so people think they are boring or assholes and don't want to be their friend (rightfully so).