Is it strange that even r/sexworkers proves the handbook right?

Seeing SW talk about regularly falling for clients and being hopeless romantics dying for a "pretty woman" experience. Imagine choosing a mode in life where a client showing you "consideration" and "respect" makes you fall in love with them because you're not used to receiving that from men. Imagine calling a lifestyle that's responsible for that "empowerment".

Sidenote: Also calling a job "Vanilla" just because it's a job where no one can express wanting to grope you let alone do it?

The biggest influence that could come to an fds-er from reading this forum is take people who go to SW-ers are not like we imagine them. They are financial stable, good-looking, and well-spoken often.

And you know that they probably never admit to paying such services in real life because it still makes them look like losers, makes regular women unwilling to date them, and increases their chances of dying alone & without respect.

It makes my skin crawl to think men that are attractive and confident enough for casual dating and casual sex would rather pay to rape a woman (who most of the time would leave with the money without having sex with him if he told her she doesn't have to). Still not encouraging the former.

If you're an Fds-er and you browse the subreddit (I know you shouldn't), you feel the desire to go wgtow growing stronger and stronger. Well spoken, kind, attractive, confident, rich men will never truly admit what they do single or on the side.

I'd rather focus on earning so much money that I can live alone in comfort than wonder what kind of skeletons my husband who never gets nervous has in his closet.

Sidenote: if we could still use reddit, I am willing to bet so many posts on r/sexworkers would serve as proof or anecdotal evidence for the handbooks rules.

I am also angry that cis-men pay so much more respect to the rules on r/sewworkersonly and refuse to comment on that sub, while explicitly going against the rules on r/TwoXChromosomes and responding to all the questions women explicitly ask women while stating that they fully know it goes against the rules.