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There's no guy hot enough to be worth throwing away your self-respect and dignity. It sounds like you haven't even gone on ten dates yet and you're already worried about him being out with other women and not texting you back? No no no, continuing to see this guy is pretty much self-harm at this point.

Walk away and go do something good for yourself. Learn a new language, teach yourself a new skill, go on a weekend trip somewhere you've never been. Don't let a bad man's physical beauty distract you from the seething mess of worms and filth he actually is on the inside. "Player" is another word for "faithless, amoral jerk who manipulates women into having sex with him and then abandons them once he's sure they are emotionally attached." Run, sis.

What part of this could possibly be "fun" exactly???

Sex w “players” is horrifically bad most of the time. Only once have I dated a player who was consistently good (not good enough to give me an orgasm but would ALWAYS go down on me for ages and didn’t worry about me hating BJs - never asked for one after I told him they are degrading and gross me out) in bed. The rest think they’re so hot that they don’t need to put in effort. Usually younger guys have been better for me, but this situation does not sound good. It sounds like you’re on the back foot constantly and stressing more than you’re enjoying. Don’t have sex with him, you don’t need oxytocin bonding you to this guy who you think may flake.

Eff this guy. Cut him loose. Also, let me tell you: there's no better feeling than rejecting a guy who you thought was hotter than you. Personally, I love to see their egos bruised, as they cannot fathom why a girl they thought they settled for has the audacity to dump them.

Also, I don't like what you said about "we agreed to wait 10 dates". Don't do that! They will then stick around just that long. Keep them on their toes. Never give them a timeframe. Make them earn it (but don't EVER tell them that's what you're doing).

Ultimately it's your choice. I would cut him loose. There is not a chance that you will get out of it without bruises since you already seen red flags. From your description it sounds like you are being manipulated into 'temptation'. I get that sometimes we want to waive bye to the guards but regretting afterwards on being used is the worst. I would rather have my dignity and not sleep with someone for whom I am just another one than have a couple of orgasms from sex. (Not that there is guarantee that I will get any).

All the comments did their fair share of giving a solid advice, so I'm not gonna repeat...however I'm gonna say this.. If I were you (knowing it will all be harmless & safe) I would let the fuckboi entertain me with dates and fun times (NOT sex) let him pay and spoil me.. and after the tenth date (where he expects sex) I would drop the scrote like a hot potetoe, ghost, block and delete 🤣 That would be my version of fun & run...just like what scrotes do to women after they sleep with them.

That sounds fucking atrocious. Why would you throw any part of yourself at that.

You know yourself and him better than we do, but from an outside perspective, this doesn't sound like a good deal. Some women think they can beat men at their own game, but we still live in a patriarchy. The game is rigged. Situationships / friend with benefits / polyamory and the like are almost entirely set up to the benefit of the man, not the woman. We have much more to lose and make ourselves a lot more vulnerable in dating and especially sex. The only way I could see this work is if he constantly pleasures you in bed without wanting anything in return, spoils you, doesn't make you emotionally dependent on him, and leaves you free to date other men. Which is an arrangement that has probably never been made in the history of men, lol. Notice how it's often women who do these exact things for scraps of affection from their "almost boyfriends". Men are used to having upper hand in relationships and they act accordingly.

if i were in your shoes, i would definitely vcut him loose. men always think they can "do better" and if he's already showing signs of desinterest, that's because he's not that into you. so why waste your time? i don't persue. it's a rule i have. if the guy wants me, he lets me know. if he doesn't, i refuse to go after him and beg for his attention.

Don't bother boosting his ego and becoming a bar story for his buds. You're a joke to him. Want to be the "old lady he railed"? Hope not

You know he can't stay faithful and find yourself worrying about his loyalty. You want to enjoy your own lust? Be more realistic about this fling. He would not stay loyal even you two were the same age. The way to get the most enjoyment out of this relationship is to stop worrying about whether he'll cheat on you, and consider the eventual cheating to be the expiration of the relationship. You seemed willing to just have fun without sleeping with him. Allow yourself to go on dates as long as he's paying. Keep your intuition sharpe and trust your gut, you'll know when he's reached his limit with "challenging" himself. It's not his age, it's not his beauty, it's his personality and the way he's used to living life that's not going to change. Fds is about finding men that add value to your life, not about adding worry to your life.

Men like this will pressure you into sex regardless of the boundaries you put in place. You will succumb to his wishes and get nothing in return, besides an STD.

What even is this nonsense? Why are you wasting your time and dignity like this? Re-read the handbook. Twice.

In future, don't tell men when you are going to sleep with them. All that does is hand them the blueprint for how long to show interest in you until they get what they want.

HANDBOOK. Read it.

Your last line is "whether to just have fun and not sleep with him or just cut him loose?" but a lot of the comments here are telling you not to sleep with him -- so I'm halfway assuming that I'm reading it wrong! Just to cover all my bases, though: (1) If you don't have sex with him but just want to go on having whatever other non-sex you're having (I'm assuming this means good dates to interesting places, top restaurants, etc.?) -- once you've already decided that he's not someone you're interested in -- then I can't see how that's not wasting his time or (more importantly) YOUR time. Focus that energy elsewhere! Or (2) if you intended your last line to say "just have fun and sleep with him" -- please don't, for all the reasons mentioned in the other comments! Here's to you staying safe, happy, and free from doubts and worries.

Next him, he's gone.

Just use him and discard him. You know, for your own “personal bragging rights.” A sexy 40-something lady like you should be able to have fun too 😉.