I was seeing this guy on and off for a whole year. He made it clear he wasn't ready or interested in a relationship with me. But wanted to continue as FWB. I agreed. While he kept saying he wasn't in love, and didn't want a relationship, he gave me these compliments:
You are the most gorgeous woman, the most gorgeous of them all
I have never had it so good, as I do with you
When I am with you, I don't need anything else and nobody else
The most important thing for me is that you are ok
I care more about you than you will ever fathom
Songs he sent me that reminded him of me:
Ariana Grande - POV
John Legend - All of me
Doja Cat - Freak
We had date night every Wednesday.
If I was sick, he would bring me Ben & Jerry ice cream and sushi. He fixed my website, he helped me with accounting, and helped me delivering taxes.
He did not care about me. This is a reminder for me self, and hopefully to other women out there. That even if he does all those things, doesn't mean he gives a fuck.... He benefited from doing those things for me. Made him feel good. Bottom line, he was a scrote.
On and off = off. Seriously, why does the media lie to us about struggle love? It’s so obvious when it’s over!
Ahh, the mixed messages and hot/cold behavior. Hugs to you, that’s a bit confusing when you’re in it. Intermittent reinforcement is so wrong.
The only time to listen to a man’s words is when he says he “doesn’t want a relationship” and/or is not “in love with you.”
A big one a lot of women also get played by is the ol’ “I love you, but I’m not in love with you” 🟰 “I’m sleeping around with other people and am keeping you around for validation.”
Glad you eventually saw his scrotery for exactly what it was.
If the man isn't begging to be with you and proving that he wants to be with you, he doesn't want to be with you. FWB ONLY benefits the male. What kind of friend wants to fuck you but doesn't think you're good enough to be his wife? Friends are PLATONIC. Friends don't fuck. Friendship is something deep and meaningful, and it's an insult to the word "friend" for a guy to fuck zone you and call it "friendship."
So sorry to hear that this scrote messed with your head. Confusion and hot/cold behavior is a huge red flag. You dodged a bullet there. The drama cycle might be addictive, but it's not worth it.
I'm sorry, love. All those things he said are just empty words, ultimately. A man who is truly in love would never make a woman feel cheap like that.
I know we shouldn't waste too much time trying to speculate on the reasoning of LVM but why tf would someone waste their time buying sushi/icecream for a sick person and fixing their website and shit if they weren't even interested in securing a relationship with them? LVM have such poor time management skills it's bonkers