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Hi ladies !
Friendly reminder that when a man hurts you, by ghosting you, stonewalling you etc. They KNOW what they are doing.
a few days ago at a party, I unexpectedly bumped into a guy who treated me badly months ago and ended up ghosting me. I remember at the time that I was doubting myself: maybe I did something to scare him away, maybe it's my fault ?
What did this coward do when he saw me ? He literally ran away from me and left the party. I am disgusted.
That's low quality men: they know they are hurting you but when they have to face the consequences, they have no courage and run.
Wow he couldn’t even face you! What a loser. Your absolutely right! They are cowards and they cant face the consequences of their own actions. Bet in his mind though he is the good guy still. Bet he is blind to his own toxic mindset or behaviour.
I’m glad he ran away from you to make room for the next guy.
We need to stop thinking men have the compassion or rationality that women have. we think of them as full humans, but let’s be real, they certainly don’t think the same of us.
We have to start applying consequences (block and delete) because it is the only thing men respond to. I used to think giving him a firm reprimand and setting a boundary was a consequence, but now I see it isn't because he doesn't respect you enough to care what your opinion of him is. He tunes out the lecture completely. Losing access to women's attention because of his bullshit though? That gets his attention. If we as a collective apply consequences and teach young women to do the same, maybe men will start to behave better. But right now it is just so easy for them to find the next pickme on the street who will tolerate bad behavior.A guy I had been on a date with waited two weeks to respond to my text, and he didn't apologize when he reappeared, he just answered my question. I am still sloughing off some pickme ways so I sent him a polite message about how I deserved better than to be ghosted and I didn't want to see him anymore. He said, "I'm sorry you 'feel' ghosted that was not my intention, but I understand. I suck at relationships even with family." Bullet dodged. Now I know better and will block and delete. If a guy ghosts you it's because he doesn't care enough to act right in the first place.
Remind me of my upstairs neighbour. I don't remember his name because he's unimportant, so we call him Jerkface.
Jerkface is a player of loud music. It bothers my flatmate because she works from home, so I go up there and ask him very nicely to keep it down. This "man" has a motorbike and a Staffordshire Bull Terrier, so he likes to present himself as all that. If I pass him in the stairwell or outside he won't meet my eye and walks away in a hurry.
I always make sure to be really friendly in the Southern "bless your heart" and I own your soul kinda way. A steady gaze and a knowing smile go a long way.
I met a guy, who treated me bad when I was younger and very insecure, at a party. I was stone cold and just walked away when he tried to say hi. The fury on his face and the bruise to his ego. He seemed off the rest of the time I was there. It was so fucking satisfying.