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I posted two days ago about a mean Scrote who spent the entire FaceTime call insulting me. So, I took the advice of everyone here and people I knew and blocked him on both the app and my phone.
Guesssss what ?
Scrote be mad!
He almost immediately text messages from his other phone . Telling me instead of blocking I should've just comMuNiCaTeD !
So yes, I did respond. Briefly . I said well since you asked, you came across as rude and disinterested.
he responded by saying I actually was interested you should've just communicated.
but I wish you the best of luck, truly.
notice there is no apology in all of this. He is putting the blame fully on me. For my supposed lack of communication, instead of his sucky communication, which includes nothing but insults.
Stay safe out there ladies.
Abusive men love the "when you do X, it makes me feel Y" game. They know its a fawn response, they know they are abusive and they like it. They know how we feel and they like it. They truly are just simply addicted to "dunking on women" be it abuse, porn, manosphere content, grooming children, harassing women online. Ignore them into oblivion.
I'm allowed to be a dick and you MUST respond by communicating. Those are the rules!!!! If you do not accept my dickish treatment of you, YOU are the bad guy!!!!
Edit: Adding that this is actually the classic 3-part gaslight:
1-He does something dickish
2-You point out that he did something dickish
3-He makes you the bad guy and everything is all now your fault because you pointed out that he did the dickish thing
Is this DARVO? I think it's in the same vein as DARVO but perhaps needs a more fitting label.
Don't respond! In his twisted brain getting a response is reinforcing the fact that he's getting what he wants, he countered your blocking!
And this:
You've given him the perfect opportunity to turn the situation upside down so he can cope.
See, now he's thinking that HE'S rejecting YOU ("I WAS interested" - read: not anymore. "I wish you the best" - read: goodbye, on my terms). Huge victory for his ego, because your initial blocking made his feefees hurt and how he's doing "the payback move". Ugh, scrotes are so childish. Block and delete, all of them. No second chances.
When he said, "I actually did like you." I would have said, "I couldn't tell by the way you were continuously insulting me." And next time please don't give out your real number to a male. Use Google voice or text free/ textnow apps to get a free burner number. This is a perfect example of why when you give out your real number, they can just contact you from a different number. With a burner number, you can block, then get a brand new number afterwards..
His other phone? So his burner phone that he uses to look at p*rn and for sexting FWB. You dodged a bullet.
Next time you might consider saying “I did communicate though. Didn’t my blocking your number communicate something to you?”
SUPER creepy that he texted you using his other phone.
Never ever speak to them again. They always want to feel as though they’ve won. They are childish and only seek to infuriate.
Communicating doesn't just involve telling someone something. Sometimes not communicating is in itself a form of communicating. Not communicating i.e. blocking or not responding to calls is a way of telling someone "I no longer want a relationship with you". This guy is an idiot if he can't see that.
No don't listen to their bs to communicate. He needs to know his place and learn some manners, that's not your job. You should have just ignored him.
I got annoyed when a dude started spewing bullcrap and then he said even his psycologist can't figure him out so I can just stop talking about how a man of your dreams should act so i said okay goodbye, and I blocked him saying I don't want to deal with unhinged emo behavior, he sended a message on a different account saying I didn't give him a chance to apologise and im a huge bitch for that.. I made a wrong move by insulting back and he forwarded the msg to his buddies and they got annoyed saying im a sick F. for discriminating against emo's.
You don't owe men communication when they crossed the line or served disrespect. They know what they are doing.
I agree that you dodged a bullet OP! The only silver lining is that his (over)reaction proves that your gut instinct was right, so there is that! Stay safe!
This is more proof of why block and delete works. We always say on fds that when you don't block and delete, the men will become more abusive and somehow invent a way to blame the women. I call it him "spinning the table" notice how he pointed the finger at you and said HIS mistake is YOUR fault! The audacity.
Blocking and deleting prevents him from getting the last word and last opportunity to be abusive.
A woman's attention in any sort of way is currency to men, any opportunity for him to make youbfeel bad and try to degrade you is gold to him.
next!