convenience over everything

Today, I woke up and was greeted by a message from a guy who lives in my state. The first thing you should know is, dude and I have NEVER met. I do not know what he looks like; this is from a chat program. There are so many issues here, but just remember: it's not you. It's not about how special or talented you are (and you ARE, never fear). For the vast majority of men, it's how CONVENIENT you are. That's it, convenience, that's all they care about. And it makes for ridiculous, outrageous behavior. For example:

-- Dude messaged me on my chat program because we happened to live in the same state. That's cool, I'm just passing time, and we have chatted a few times.

-- He let me know that he lives with his mother, and his mother and he are nudists. Whatever, your business only, none of mine, and I said so. But like most nudists (and Harley fans), that's it, it's his ONLY hobby, and he just kept on mentioning it. I'd always bypass it, talk about something else, never acknowledge. These people, though... they have a way of shoving their one and only interest in your face. Finally had to say, I do not care about nudism, don't understand it, don't appreciate it, this is YOUR business ONLY. Zero hints taken, and I've since found out this is a pattern. Dude has no social skills.

-- Dude is 50+ and has never lived on his own. I found this out later, of course, and expressed surprise and some alarm, and said good luck getting out. He has no plans to get out. I gather the mother is a giant piece of abusive work on many levels.

-- He came back about a month or so ago saying he was looking for a wife. I wished him well as he searched. Oh no, he wants ME. My go-to is to be reasonable: we've never met; we know nothing about each other, etc. Oh, but you've been married before, he told me. His only qualification: I have wife skills. Looks, personality, personal likes and dislikes, what I want for my own life... ignored. I obviously told him no, not marrying a THIRD time, and I wanted nothing to do with him and his mother's lives which are far too enmeshed. I wished him well as he continued to look.

-- Today he said, why can't we just be FWB? Wow, just wow. NO, again, to just hooking up with anyone random. Full-on relationship with someone I know, like, trust, and am attracted to, or nothing, so no thanks, I prefer no hooking up, no relationship, no marriage because you and your mother are too close and the entire relationship is not normal.

So as you can see, it's not us, ladies. It's all about convenience. This is an extreme example, but I've had many "offers" like this from other scrotes, especially hobosexuals. Quite often, it's enough just to know you're single; whether you're looking or dating is immaterial. Yes, I feel sorry for this man-child, but I would honestly be afraid to meet his mother or set foot in his house lest I am held hostage and put in a "Room"-like situation of kidnapping!

I should add one last thing: how did this happen? Simple polite conversation, passing time, nothing more. Scrotes like this take basic conversation about the most mundane things and think you are thirsty, looking, available, horny, needy, wanting a MAYYUN. Seriously, I have had so many interactions online turn out like this. To go from basic, polite, normal chat to someone who morphs instantaneously into a giant octopus who will not let go... it's mind-blowing.