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I've been single for a while. I'm happy and healthy. Online dating sucks. The people I meet in real life are okay, but they don't match the most important standard of belonging to the same faith as me. My place of worship doesn't have good choices.
They must belong to the same faith and must be attractive. I would go out with someone if they have these two qualities, of course I have other reasonable fds-friendly deal-breakers.
How do I keep a rotation of men, if they don't meet my standards?
I'm pretty good without male attention, so it's not like I'm craving it or anything. It's just that many people here say you should meet men. But the men I want to meet, I haven't met.
i think that keeping your standards is more important than meeting men / scrotation. so my advice is: enjoy being solo until you meet one or more possible HVMs to vet and do the scrotation.
A rotation? I'll be blunt: I am considered conventionally attractive. Even in my 20s and 30s, when I was out socializing 5-6 nights a week I never had a rotation of "high value men." I was socializing in circles with high earning, educated, cultured people, volunteering, attending events, and participating in community organizations. I could not have done more.
Not only did I never have a rotation, I never met ONE high value man who was single.
My advice to you is what I'm attempting to do now in my own life: go hard into enjoying life for yourself and do not waste time trying to beat the odds out there. It's been a long journey to reach this place of acceptance and in a way I am still grieving. I'm sorry it sucks so much.
I think ideally you’d want to meet more than 1 man but that’s not possible depending on location, your schedule, community etc. I don’t think it’s a hard fast rule about it. I’m in the same boat but end of the day even if it’s 1 guy I’m vetting it’s him vs my solitude and my time. Something I’m not going to give up easily, and I’m not going to cancel my own schedule plans(hobbies, work, errands, girls night out, etc) either if wants to date. He’s going to have to compete with that and make it worth my while to have a date.