A tale of strategic incompetence.

Every day I am so thankful I'm not married and don't have to cook or plan meals for an entitled man anymore!!! I just have to worry about myself and whatever I feel like for dinner, at whatever time I feel like cooking it! 🥰

The highlights for me were:

"He could see how this was an unfair burden on me, and he still asked me if he could get out of it."

Yup, yup, yup. They see it, they know it, they'll still expect it and be angry when it isn't provided.

"I know everyone on reddit says this about their trash husbands, but my husband literally is so great. I don't think he is trash at all. He volunteers at Planned Parenthood, is a feminist, and literally teaches about intersectional themes at our university. I've been unemployed, in the hospital, in therapy, and he is always constant. He is "woke," but he is a white man with privilege at the same time. I do think he is a good person, but he is blind and sexist when it comes to this. This has always been a horrible tension between us, and for years I just made dinner and did dishes so I could avoid a conflict."

Men like this LOVE to call themselves feminist but suddenly expect rigid gender roles when they're required to notice what's dirty in their own home and feed themselves. These men are NOT feminists.

"And I felt so disappointed in him that on some level, he knew I took on a bigger share of household chores than him, and he just decided to be fine about it and not say anything, and gaslighted me into believing we truly shared domestic responsibilities evenly."

Bingo. That's the ick settling in.

I. love. being. single.

On a personal note: I am someone who absolutely LOVES to cook for someone I love. I’d go as far as to say it’s a love language, it brings me THAT much joy.

But because MEN are the problem sex and have to ruin everything, I have to actively suppress and deny myself this joy until I feel like they deserve it (i.e. a relationship in which MAYBE I’ll cook every once in a while). Even then I keep one eye open.

I never have to hide this joy when cooking for friends, it comes naturally.

Fukken “male feminist” academic 🚩🚩🚩scrote husbands can mindfuck like nobody’s business. Damn.

Males are "feminists" only when it's time to pay or pull their weight, and every single time they obsessively count every miniscule thing, every little chore they do, because god forbid they'll overwork themselves by doing even a couple tasks more than a woman does.

When the subject of cooking comes up on dates, I always say, “I do not cook, do not like to cook, and will never cook.” (This is the truth.)

This has been my strategy for many years. The men hear me loud and clear.

i’ve heard that before, from my scrote father. “jUsT tELL mE wHaT tO dO!”

no.

men don’t get to get paid more to push the mental load onto women. take some initiative and stop being lazy AF.

everyone needs to fucking eat. it’s a basic life function, and men somehow find it a deep enigma. i really don’t understand.

i appreciate my brother’s wife. she just says, “i don’t cook.“ PERIOD.

my brother loves cooking and is obsessed with it and does it all the time.

“the oldest form of oppression in history has been the oppression of 50 percent of the population by the other 50 percent”

This whole post is obviously a minefield, but one detail that stuck out is that he wanted her to “ask nicely.” If my husband ever told me to ask anything nicely, I would be instantly filled with irreversible rage and contempt for him.

I read a bit but couldn’t continue reading more. How is she ok with this??? She needs to leave this manipulative selfish scrote. A HVM will order take out or get food from somewhere if he doesn’t like cooking or he will at least try. The fact that he still expects her to do things is nauseating. She is also a pick me saying I take care or credit card bills! Why???

If he's an adult, he should already know what to do. If he doesn't know, he can always take a class. Or there's online tutorials on how to pretty much everything. Even other men teaching men! (Male chefs give cooking classes.) So he has no excuse. If he still doesn't know how, it means he doesn't want to know. All information is there. It's available for him to learn.

Man that story was crazy.

At times I just eat dorito’s for breakfast. manlets can suck it, there is nothing feminine about looking after a man child.

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