A man in dire need of therapy

That's a long story. We started working together about 4 years ago. We are both musicians, which is important in this stroy. There are 5 people in our this band, I'm a singer and he's a keyboard player. I have always treated him like a friend and nothing else. We started texting, most of the conversations were about music, band related situations, etc. Over time he started sharing more and more of his private life, which turned out to be really messy. He started sending me those weird messages about his criminal activity (he claims to be a part of a gang, or sth, but I also think he might be lying). He sent me photos of stolen watches, paintings, etc. He asked me if I wanted to take part in it (!!!) Obviously I said no. Around that time I started growing tired of him. He would text me that he was wearing an expensive shirt and a leather jacket and was on his way to get his money back from people that owed him. Like who tf asked? I also noticed the way he looked me. I became suspicious and though he might have had some feelings for me. Two years ago I released my frist single. He really liked this song and the music video and said he could help me get some contacts, etc. He is a singing teacher and is inviolved in the local community, he has his students and they perform together on different occasions, so he invited me several times and I had a chance to perform as well. He also got me one solo concert. Aaaand... Here's where it goes downhill. So as we were preparing for the concert, choosing songs, gathering musicians willing to perform with me, he sent me a message one day saying he had feelings for me. I kind of felt that he might have been helping me, because he wanted to have me close, but I was hoping that it wasn't true. Well... It was. I told him the truth, that I didn't feel this way and I liked him as a friend. He replied in a tone that felt a little off, like "ok, we're just working, I've never told you that". The concert went pretty well, we shared they money, everything was fine. I thought it was the end, since I treated him as a friend. He didn't act weird when our band had a gig. One day he asked me if I could send him some of my lyrics. He said he could help me with the music. I said yes, but then forgot about it. He contacted me again and brought it up. So I sent him lyrics to four songs, sent him a long email with details how I wanted each song to sound, etc... And that's when he started calling me more and more often. Ofcourse I would answer, since I thought he was going to talk about the songs. But it was the least frequent topic of our conversations. 99% of the time he was trauma dumping and venting, taking my time, talkin the same over and over again. Often he wasn't sober. He would tell me about his "mafia" problems, things I couldn't help him with. I honestly regretted sending him my songs and having anything to do with him. It went for about a year and he obviously didn't do anything. Yes, I know I sound stupit. I think he was just using me for free therapy. But one day he crossed the line.

It was evening and I just finished my work. Then I saw an email from him that said "be on zoom in 5 minutes". And went red, like what does it mean "be in 5 minutes"? But he got me by the balls, right? My stupid ass thought "he never contaced me this way, maybe it's going to be music this time". Haha... No, actually I got myself into a 40-minute rant about him losing his phones and getting into trouble because of that. Funny thing is that he knew where he should have been looking for them, he just wanted to vent. Next day he found them and called me... but I didn't pick up. He called me several times, but I ignored him. I kept ignoring him for weeks and finally he texted me, that he got me a great gig, but I din't pick up the phone so he had to give it to someone else. And that was the moment I vented. I texted him that I didn't know what I was signing myself up for when answering his calls, I didn't like him trauma dumping on me and calling me when he was drunk.

Weeks later his friend texted me saying two things: 1)"X" loved me 2)that they had some song for me. I ignored him, because from that point it was clear that all of his help was just manipulation. We stopped talking, which I didn't mind at all. But we still work together, we play on wedding parties. When the new season began I was seeing him again. We were politely ignoring each other. Recenlty, after months of silence, he has sent me an email asking if we could talk. I didn't reply immediately, but after a day I decided to give him the final closure. I mentioned his friend, I told him what I though about his "help", I recalled him negging me by phone calls and mentioned in the end that we work together and I didn't want our relationship to be the way was last season, but I wanted him to respect my boundried. I also mentioned that I preferred writing rather than speaking, becasue I was afraid that he would start calling me several times a week again. I also told him that I never had feeling for him and it would never change.

Well... He's called today. Didn't pick up. And don't intend to. I told him what form of communication is suitable for me and he can't respect even that little bit. We'll see each other on New Year's Eve, because our band is playing. I can't wait. I'm kidding. Sorry for the long read. Guy's a pain in the ass and I - for once - had to vent.