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Every dating site I've been on, I always see terrible photos. Photos too up close, photos too far away, group only photos, photos with them wearing a hat and sunglasses, photos where you can clearly see they lie about their age, bathroom selfies, etc. Why can't they put effort in their damn profiled? Am I crazy, or are most guys online just unattractive??? I'm 33 and I'm already seeing guys in my age group look absolutely horrible for their age. I'm also tired of getting views, likes, and sometimes messages from men between 40's-60's.
I haven't found ONE guy attractive on these sites. My mother wonders why I haven't found anyone yet. Am I being too shallow that I want to be attracted to them first????
Are there any women here in late teens and twenties that find online dating working out for them? What do ye think dating is going to be like in 2023? Partially asking coz 1% of me wonders if I should bother giving it one last try. I live too remote to meet anyone so I would only have the online option. However I literally feel exhausted depressed and traumatized at just the thought of the effort to set up a profile and get ready for dates that go nowhere. It's boring to say the least and deadly scary at worst. All the effort just to meet men that would love to see me inferior to them in every way or worse raped and dead in a ditch.
“I'm 33 and I'm already seeing guys in my age group look absolutely horrible for their age.”
In my mid 30s I dated men in their late 20s because men my age looked like they were well into their 2nd trimester. Either that or they were so into the gym life their disordered eating made it impossible to spend time with them. (I have a terribly fast metabolism, if I don’t eat something every few hours I get uncomfortable & those kinds of guys get mad even if you bring your own snacks.)
Men deliberately take those types of photos. They catfish just as much if not more than women. Lying abusive manipulative pathetic aka LAMPS but not one bright brain cell between them all. Happy stress free.
What's the dating scene like in summer of 2022? I have no will left in me to ever date again but I'd love to know if shtbags are getting zero effort for zero effort. One of my friends is and she notices men asking outright for a date. Like, in first message, no conversation to get to know each other to make sure nobody is wasting their time getting ready for the date in the first place. Like they could be rapists or murderers spending zero effort on getting to know a woman coz he's going to do what he wants with her.
Nope, we women can have attraction preferences too. Yeah but men be ugly and not knowing how to take flattering pictures
The worst are the ones who use what I call the "blow job angle", where they put the camera in their lap and photograph themselves from below with a serious, unfriendly expression, dead eyes, and no smile or hint of warmth. I swear it is a pornsick thing that they do because it reminds them of fellatio porn, but it's an instant no for me.
The bathroom selfies are horrendous 😂😂. I have also seen them take photos in public toilets - come on hahahah!
Lol I feel the same way! on OLD I didn’t find anyone attractive especially the ones who are always tope-less with a 2/4pack. Desperate and thirsty. Huge turn off
No. You're not being too shallow. I've been off OLD for almost 20 months now and as far as I can remember, 2020 photos of men sucked. You have your IG bro who curates his personal gallery by taking photos of himself in the bathroom with full lighting and then you have chin-photos. There was NO normal photo. And the rest of them are group photos, photos of them holding babies and saying "it's not mine uwu", photos of them from a big distance, memes, photos of them with a cap and sunglasses where you cannot see their eyes and their hair...
Nah, they want women who look like models and not work on themselves. Entitlement! I always put on my profile “only into people who also works out”. Those who tried to even start w convo with me who look like they dont even take care of themselves is an instant block. Filtering starts from my own profile’s content🥲
One guy used a pic of himself sleeping.
My issue is how all their profiles are empty, at best you get a "just ask". What is the purpose? To show how lazy they are? Ya baby, so sexy. I always dreamed of racking my brain to play twenty questions with a guy who has the conversational skills of a potato. What a panty dropper! 🤡 Or is it scrote game to prepare you for shouldering ALL the responsibility? "I'll start with getting her to carry the weight of the conversation and then just keep adding from there!" To claim no characteristics so they can be a chameleon and better dupe you? Maybe these dummies think we are as vapid as them so a mere photo will suffice. I have some bad news for you scrotes: NO ONE is handsome enough to make up for a sh!t personality. You could have a face like Brad Pitt, and a wallet like Elon Musk - but NOTHING will compel me to have sex with the mentally handicapped. Quality women aren't mindless, desperate d!cks thrusting into space like you, lack of personality is sandpaper to the vag.😹
I once took a really great picture of my ex, and he used it fucking everywhere. His selfies looked like mugshots.
Lol yeah! Women have had it hammered into us on a daily basis that being pretty will get us a man. Men have been told they have to exist near a single woman and BOOM! GF.
Never used OLD, so can't relate to the image-based dating struggle, but: Men can't take a decent photo of anyone else, either. Prepare to have any holiday snaps taken of you by your man to be absolute rubbish.
I can find some virtue in it, to be fair - do I want a guy who preens for selfies like a teenage girl or treats relaxed photo opportunities like they're a fashion house promo shoot? Not really...
This is why most women swipe right on only the top 20% of men. 80% of them look undateable.
The answer to your question is in your first sentence…. Because you are on dating apps, it’s an easy way / low effort (which is why they are not putting any effort in their profile) for lazy men to get free sex. Dating apps are the bottom of the barrel Why do that to yourself!!
They simply do not care. Anybody with shit photos in this day and age isn't worth the time. I've gone out with men that are attractive but take shit photos, and they always turn out to be a bit off/weird/low effort. But men with photos that are a little too curated (looks like a model portfolio, lacks personality, nothing but a nice face/body/clothes) tend to be really superficial
No, you're not being shallow. You deserve to find a partner you are attracted to.
There’s totally two primary factors in this, the actual attractiveness of the person, and their creativity/ability to convey themselves in pictures and have some artistic taste and aesthetic sensibilities. But many, many men lack both. Overall, most I know take much poorer care of themselves and put much less effort into their appearance. And also lack that creativity. Some are taking shitty pictures because they’re actually socio or psychopathic, didn’t one of the hosts of the podcast call a certain type of OLD pic a “serial killer photo”? I knew exactly what that meant, the vacant, glazed over stare, dead on, face looking weird af from that fisheye angle. Etc. Anyways, most women put on more effort and are better on both fronts. Who would have guessed 😂
I've been on OLD for a week and the rare time a guy is conventionally attractive he is only interested in "something casual" or "let's see where it goes". I'm lucky enough to be conventionally attractive so it's easy for me to match with guys I find attractive, but it seems like any man attractive enough to afford to use a dating website as a hookup app will do so. 😢 Honestly I'm probably just going to delete my profile.