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I noticed there's 4 types of women I come across:
Some women I know are in the early stages of dating - enthusiastically accepting walk "dates" followed by movie dates or some other low effort excuse for a date. They use OLD like hinge. They are shocked when they get ghosted.
Other women are dating a dusty asshole of a man who is clearly immature but she hopes he will change. He's always older than her but she is dating him because "the older guys are more mature". She plans on buying a house with him and pays his rent/does all the cooking and cleaning/emotional labour etc. she cooks meals for him every day - unless she's not around , then he cooks for himself. Because god forbid he ever cooks or does anything for HER. She's waiting for that ring 💍 that he will probably get cheap or secondhand when he's finally tired of her asking wheres the ring ?
And then there's the worst ones, the ones beyond saving. Been engaged for 10+ years, or it took that long to get a ring. The male fiance is clearly settling and gave a shut up ring. She complains that he doesn't help with the unplanned child, does all the housework and lost her career. She jokes around that her husband never does the cooking, unless she is not there, like it's funny. She sounds like he's an extra child to care for. He's utterly useless and focuses on his job.
There's also the girl who is single but craves love and affection. She has low self esteem and needs a man to prove she's worthy of love. She frequently goes to the gym, hoping that if she loses weight and has a good body more men will see her as worthy of love. She is terrified of being single forever. Due to loneliness she tends to overshare and is anxious. May have been in a long term relationship or marriage but is recently separated, but eager to replace their ex.
I used to be the first and second one, so I can't entirely blame them. The SUB PAR SHIT that women tolerate is unbelievable. And it's always some thing they're aware of. They KNOW it's bad and that's why they're complaining. But they won't leave and the two main reasons are 1. They don't want to be alone by the time there 30 (a weird milestone woman create for themselves) and 2. They are financially dependent on the man. I also think it is low key 3. They don't believe they deserve better / don't believe there is anyone better out there.
Where is the 5th type of woman, the one with self respect and loves herself, is independent and strong who takes no bullshit? I am yet to meet any!
Being alone is SO much better than dating a LVM. They do not give, they only take. They use women and the only reason they ever leave is when they found another woman /are caught cheating.
Am I the only one who finds this hard? It's so hard not to say anything. Womens beliefs about relationships are in the toilet 🚽. They think it's "wild" to not have moved in with your fiancé - because their dusty bf moved in with them ! And totally not for free labour, it's because he loves them 🫣 I hate to break it to you girls, but he's using you because he's a low value man.
I agree, and my opinion may sound cynical but I believe the vast majority of men have nothing to offer in a relationship. As you said: all they do is take, but never give.
Women are lied to from the time we’re toddlers. Disney pushes the lie of prince charming at us and we eat that shit up. Meanwhile, men are only concerned with getting sex as quickly and easily as possible, and/or extracting uses out of us- basically a mommy bangmaid. It’s painful to watch women suffer because theyre chasing this idea of love and romance that doesnt exist.
I was the girl who worked out a lot, then turned into the first girl you mentioned. After a series of traumatizing and disappointing events on the app, I just gave up with the app and men all together. I have not been in a relationship since 2019; just a bunch of lousy dates that I met without using the app. Treatment from these men was slightly better, but they were still trash. I’ve ruled out that the apps make it easier for men to have access to women, their “masks” falls easier since they think they’re being “upfront” by shamelessly asking for things they wouldn’t normally do irl, and furthermore, it’s not that I’m bashing on OLD, sadly, this is the playground for LVM to conglomerate, I find that it has to do with the contemporary culture and environment that these guys were brought up. They expect us to live in this giant contradiction that benefits them. They expect us to be trad women, but expect us to do 50/50. They judge our level education, but when we have more education than them, that’s just too much. They want us to be independent, but need/miss them at the same time.
Anyways, sorry my rant. Idk if I fit into any of the categories you’ve stated. Hahaha
Nowadays, I’m working on getting my pre-Covid body back. I’m taking up new hobbies and learning new things. If I do happen to meet someone special, that’s great, but for now, I’m not going to put my life on hold. Instead, I’m going to do everything I want and complete my goals before I die.
People in their 20s are figuring out what they like and don't like but those women that allow themselves to be impregnated by multiple scrotes are doing it to try and manipulate these said sociopath scrotes are mentally ill women they're not in their right minds and they suffer deeply character flaws from trauma. Stay away from them it's a sign of cluster b messiness. You will be their customer service and therapist and you'll devote energy nitpicking them like you did in this post. There are tons of girls in their 20s who are putting themselves first but you're not attracting them yet because you're focused on the pick mes. There will always be pick mes as there will always be simps.
So I admit that I’ve put up with bad men because 3. I didn’t believe there was anything better out there.
Honestly though, is there better? I have met maybe three HVM in my entire life. Two were married, one got married when I knew him (all 3 are still married, happily).
So…I’ve met thousands of men in my life, and only 3 were HV. The math ain’t mathing, and the odds aren’t good that I’d ever meet a single HVM. I do know LOTS of HVW however. There are so many of us, and most are single.
My theory is that women who put up with LVM realize that HVM are unicorns, so they pick from the donkeys.