So….im making plans to get away from my mother. I’ve known for a while that my mother is quite narcissistic she’s entitled, grandiose, validation seeking, has a victim mentality and tries to control everyone financially. I already have a few boundaries but need to enforce more as I feel she is getting worse. Im a single parent so I struggle financially and I care for her a lot has she has a terminal illness. My sibling isn’t as involved as me as she apparently has less time ha and our relationship is rocky. I do so much for my mother and never see other older children helping their parent out or being around as much but still she’s ungrateful. It’s gotten to a point that she’s withholding inheritance money me and my sibling are entitled too. I think she knows without her money she can’t control me and my sibling. But my mums put downs and entitlement of me and financial controls are presenting more now. Ive heard narcissistic people get worse as they age and I've literally had enough! Im too nice to totally leave her but I want to lessen it to once a week and possibly altogether eventually. Hopefully convince her to get extra help so I don’t feel bad lol. It’s tough when it’s a parent as I’m secure enough to cut people out quite easily. I’m going to have to lie and say I’m returning to work so won’t have time. Get some financial advice and hopefully stick to this. Thanks for listening x
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I'm gonna ask you some questions.
Do you have any illnesses?
How bad do you need the inheritance money?
Is the money worth your health and happiness?
What would happen if you went no contact?
Would you and your child be better off mentally if you went no contact?
Why do you feel responsible for her happiness and has she used guilt to control you?
Dealing with abusive parents is so hard. Good luck.
in solidarity with you i have a narc mom who bends over backwards puts on a circus act for her scrote sons / my brothers but acts like im always the main problem. i hope your nmom receives karma tenfold for not supporting you in one of the most hostile times of being a woman.