There are no words. I’m so upset 🥺

@blackrabbit He loved bombed her for his own ego.

He's a creepy cheater trying to seem like "such a nice guy"

No he actually pursued me hard. I wasn’t looking for anything in the beginning but he was persistent. I just think the way he went about it was quite hurtful. I mean how do you get into a relationship after meeting someone on a weekend 🤷‍♀️

Ah, I see. I’d be pissed too. Working so hard to get your attention, only to drop you without warning. SMH.

Have you met him already? If so, block and move on, and wash that man right out of your hair. If not, don’t worry anything at all about it and block and move on.

Yeah. Sis! Def, do not send him a picture of you in that way. I believe we should not even be sending our partners these type of pictures. Also, my advice is you should block and delete. It sounds like you are back up woman for him. Why is he even giving out tickets to you or accidentally asking you out when he already has someone else in mind? You don’t want to be someone’s second choice, do you?

@Pink Lotus The other ladies covered this perfectly. FDS Queens here have your back! Blocking scrotes prevents their access to you - your pictures, your trusted circle, and your peace they will use to try manipulating you back into their sphere. Posting a pic for their benefit undermines this golden rule. Bask in the blissful knowledge that you are and look fine, and he never gets to know that again. Send all that love and adoration to yourself. You'll feel cleansed in time, although the process feels yucky and hurts for a while at first. It's so tough when you think you found a good one and they turn out not to be :( Big hugs!

Thank you so much 🙏

WOW princesscold 🙌 That was such a brilliant analysis!!! Thank you so much for this. I’ve actually saved your comment to my phone 😊 I feel it was manipulative also and don’t worry I blocked him x

Thanks hibye. A HVM would never be in this situation because this"situation" doesn't exist, it's just a mind game he's playing so that he can keep manipulating Lotus.

🎯He is playing the “fake honesty” card. He is an “honest guy” so that you will be his backup so that you can be an affair partner or backup.

If he was sincere, he would have just gifted you the tickets. He is using the tickets as an excuse to keep in touch. Men that offer fake presents are THE worst.

He did not meet a magical unicorn woman that is more special than you. Either they just met and he is lovebombing her to get sex quickly or they have been dating for a while and decided to make it official over the weekend. 💡Men lie about overlapping women. This could also be a woman he has known for years.

💡Look how disrespectful he is to his new girlfriend. If you were his girlfriend, would you feel good knowing that he sent this message to a woman he courted at the same time as you? If a man and I chose to date exclusively I would hope that he would cut off his other options sooner and say, “I met someone but good luck to you”. But men who always have a woman around just can’t be alone.…Men that were good partners to me didn’t roster date (as far as I know 😅).

It’s normal to feel how you feel but this is typical manipulation behavior on his part. Block him because you are supply for his ego even in just stay acquaintances and he will test the waters with you In the near future.

But then again. What have I got to feel awkward about?! I’ve not done anything so F it!

Oh, I do think he knows exactly what he’s doing and he’s loving it. He sounds like a smug, slimy and a self-satisfied turd. He grossly overestimates his ability to maintain a relationship (he’s confident of it after spending a weekend with a woman??) as well as womens interest in him (he’s confident she will remain completely charmed with him, hence it’s a “relationship” already). Good riddance. Don’t take the “shut up, ima nice guy” tickets. Leave him on read and delete.

Practice that you will pretend like you dont remember him. Men HATE this. 😂. Pretend like you got amnesia. I’ve done this twice and it was amazing!

Oh don’t worry I won’t be taking the tickets. I don’t want a pity gift! He won’t even get a reply from me!

@Pink Lotus Yes! Ice Queen 💙

I would take the tickets and block him. But notice how he already has excuses for not just doing it. He could have said, “I bought these tickets With your name on them. How do I email them to you?”

but he is slimy and wants to keep you around on the premise that he is a nice guy.

What did he say in his last message?? That confirms he wants attention. He was probably love bombing you like someone else said. Now the new girls will be pursued and won over, and then when he’s bored with that he’ll double back around. Or maybe there is no ‘lovely lady’ and he has been playing all along. Sounds like something a narc would do.

🎯They use words in the hopes you won’t observe their actions.

@Pinklotus He's an attention seeker🤢.

@Cruel-Summer And he's trying to triangulate you with the other woman. Don't fall for it. Block and delete this nonsense. He thinks he's hot shit, you can remind him he isn't

He is totally trying to bait you. Good job and moving forward just block. Visualize a scrote trying to text you and then feeling shocked that he has already been blocked. And then laugh when they reach out to you on LinkedIn, Facebook etc…

even in your final exchange he was hoping you would validate him for being a knobhead (weaponized incompetence) and he KNOWS his behavior sucks.

I just couldn’t as I feel it would make him feel better about himself. Plus he’ll think it was ok to lead me on. So he can waste his money instead lol

@Pink Lotus Good!

No matter what he thinks it is ok to lead you on. By you taking the tickets and blocking, he would have lost access to you AND some money. He wasted your time and the right thing to do is to compensate you no strings attached. Normalize taking money from men and then blocking them.

That’s the worst take I’ve heard. He’s not giving her closure. You sound like a man.

@MoveBeyond I agree with you. Sounds like some scrote apologist BS. My friend who’s a bit of a pickme, has been convincing me to get back on the OLD, saying that I’m too rigid, and that there’s lots of ”nice guys” there. As an example she gave me her experience with a scrote, who banged her after a couple of half-assed dates, and then he “suddenly” decided he’s moving across the country. And apparently telling her that rather than disappearing was a very nice and considerate thing to do, a beautiful story, not his fault that his plans changed etc. This sounds like similar B.S. and the bar is in hell.

Not sure about this take, in my view it seems like he already committed or manipulated her into thinking he’s committed, then went back to exploring options. If a HVM had options, he wouldn’t be love bombing one of them! And the way this man rejected her via text is NOT something worth praising. Being able to kindly reject a woman is the bare minimum for a man, this man wasn’t kind because it wasn’t genuine and instead gave a load of BS excuses and attempted to give her a pity gift as if to say “here, you didn’t impress me enough and failed the test, go take yourself out to this concert since I’m sure you feel pretty bad after your failure.”