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I don't want to be interested in any of them.
This has been on my mind for a while.
If men show any “interest” in you, in their heads, they're comparing you to other women in boobs and butt size and what you can do for them without them ever having to reciprocate.
Another thought that goes through their heads is how desperate you are to sacrifice your needs and wants for them, while they comfortably say no to any of your requests but expect you to say yes to everything.
Men readily decline women they're not interested in, while societal expectations often compel women to respond politely, using phrases like “I'll think about it.”
So far the conservations about going on a date should always be on their terms and you just have to get over it that he prefers convenience over giving you a pleasant time. Otherwise you are a gold digger hurr hurr. There is plenty of getting to know a woman for free without going on a date.
Like have some balls and be a polite person, fun and quirky when you meet new people. Have a phone call before you decide to meet, And If it's not what you expected be a decent person and just pay for the bill, delete her number. Not wanting to spend money on a person you asked out is like not wanting to spend money on food at a restaurant because there might be a chance that the food doesn't taste good.
We all make risks when we buy something, Just because you don't like the dish doesn't mean you aren't obligated to pay because those restaurants workers have used their time on you and you were the one asking for service.
You asked her out, you wanted access to her time so you act accordingly or remove yourself from the dating market. Dating is not fishing for a free second mommy but it's to find a partner for life.
Unfortunately most men are big babies.
The vast majority of men are absolutely disgusting. They look terrible, they smell terrible, they behave terribly... and they do this all by choice.
I keep away from men as much as I can and my life affords me the ability to do so. 'No' is my favourite word when it comes to men, and I use it liberally, or I simply just turn and walk away from them. You don't owe them shit!
Comparisons aside, because we all make them and I'm very 'superficial' when it comes to men, it's 💯 true that they're just assessing how easy you are. It's the simplest thing to get a man when you're willing to throw yourself at them. Sure maybe not for a relationship, although it helps there too if you have no boundaries, but to get their interest? Absolutely. They're looking to take advantage of you and that's their priority. It is the rare man who thinks 'She's beautiful and I'd love to get to know her as a person' as opposed to just taking her clothes off and using her for as long as he wants.
HVW aren't all that attractive to most men. Not because they aren't valuable, but because living life as a HVW pisses off dudes who want sex chattel (most dudes). Any time a dude compliments you, take that with a grain of salt.
Same dude.
So far I've optimized my life pretty well. Remote work (where most of them seem meh/fine, but still don't have to actually interact).
I live half the country away from my scrotey male relatives.
My main social hobbies are: women's AA, women's hiking group, women's volunteer group.
Vast majority of boyfriend's male relatives are dead (this wasn't a purposeful choice, just good luck).
It's glorious.
GIVE HIM A CHANCE
just kidding