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Hello ladies, I recently had a bad experience with a man and I have been noticing similar behavior in lots of men. They like to think that we owe them love/affection/sex just because they put a little bit of effort into us.
This guy, in particular, paid for one date, and after I decided to cut him off because we aren't compatible and he showed aggressive tendencies he called me a bitch. Now his whole friend group talks badly about me because I turned down their friend who put effort into me and paid for a date.
Now one day I was scrolling through Reddit and I saw a post where a lot of men were saying that all women are bad because apparently, we "ghost" them and refuse dates after they've been good to us. This "nice guy" behavior is becoming more common and we should avoid men like that.
There are some red flags that we should look out for, for example:
1st 🚩: If a guy often generalizes women and says things like "you are not like other girls, they are all just after money" or if he says things like "women these days don't appreciate nice guys anymore".
2nd 🚩: If a guy is seemingly nice but then gets angry or passive-aggressive about small things or when you don't behave the way he wants you to.
3rd 🚩: If a guy is mean to others, or if someone tells you he is an asshole but to you he is kind. This is just a facade he is putting on because he wants something from you.
Also a 🚩, if he hangs out with misogynist douchebags don't think that he is different. They usually stick together.
That was just my two cents mixed with venting about yet another disappointment in my dating life. Stay safe ladies!
Ah, male entitlement strikes again. Women ghost men usually because they turn into Whiney bitches after we reject them, so it’s easier to disappear.
I agree with this post 100%. I use to feel obligated back in the day whenever a man treated me well or took me on a date. Now I don’t feel any obligation. I personally feel like if you choose to get to know me and I choose to allow you, then good for you. But I will not feel pressured or sorry for a man because he gave an inch of effort.
Yeah, I would also add that I've experienced men who feel entitled to/that women owe them something/some level of reciprocity because they have feelings for her. As if that instantly contracts a woman into... something?
I hate nothing more than when other people enable this stupid behavior and talk shit about a person for doing whats justified. "But they were so nice to you", "Even if you dont like them you should give them a chance because they put so much effort into it" NO.
I put a lot of effort into my studies for YEARS under difficult circumstances in my life and still didnt get the grade I want. Tough shit! Thats just how the world works and at least in my case it was actually something that impacts my future. One date is no effort, seeing if you are compartible is the whole point. If he doesnt like that risk he shouldnt date.
It truly infuriates me.
Reminder if you get drawn into an LVM / NVM's lies and do choose to exert effort for him, he will hate you for it and not reciprocate. He will take advantage / take for granted your effort.
Oh it’s even worse, they don’t even have to pay for a meal before they feel entitled to your time. I’m sure you’ve seen it, some stranger sends a “hey” through social media Then they flip out when we ignore them because “They are just trying to be nice!”
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