So so tired of it being an accomplishment for a woman to have a boyfriend

There are two main reasons why it is touted as an “accomplishment”:

1) Men lied. They told women that a relationship is A) hard to find and B) that it’s only done when a woman is “special”. Women make the mistake of thinking that the existence of a relationship is a good metric for how “in love” a man is with a woman. They assume that men actually care about finding love. Which is NOT the case in 95% of relationships. Men openly admit to dating someone just to use them for some sort of labor (sex, emotional, financial, child-bearing, child-rearing , social appeal of “owning” a woman/looking “dominant” to other men). Men literally have gfs and wives to then turn to other men and go: “look at me, look at me, my own personal bitch!” To which other men nod and applaud. Women don’t know this. They think “relationship=he loves me”. In reality, for most men it’s this: “I have a relationship b/c having a personal slave is better than being alone, even if I hate her.” Women think that it is difficult to find someone who will want them as a personal slave…lmao, get real. *Everyone* likes warm food and clean laundry.

2) Men convinced women that a male need (marriage) is a mark of female success. They’ve convinced women into thinking that male needs=women's needs. What strategy would ensure the survival of the patriarchy? A) Telling women that 95% of men get into relationships for free labor/ because “something is better than nothing"? OR B) Convincing a woman that marriage (ie something that primarily benefits men) is something that benefits her as well—-heck, it’s even an “accomplishment” if she does. Women knowing the truth threatens male privilege. It’s that simple. If you wanted to keep someone as a slave, convincing them that their slavery is “worth it” because you “love them too” is the ultimate play. The patriarchy hasn’t just succeeded in convincing women to do free labor

for them, it’s succeeded making women want to do it. Making it an "accomplishment" just incentivizes insecure women that much more. A slave that wants to be there will never leave. It’s frustrating, but once you know the truth, you’ll always be free. Unfortunately we live in a society that tells women that suffering for men is equivalent to success. Which...makes sense. Why would the same menwho control everything want you to believe any different? It doesn't benefit them. C'est la vie.

Oftentimes, what is convinient to others is what is celebrated...instead of what's beneficial to you. Understanding male motives is the key to breaking free from this.

Continue to stand tall and do not let it bother you. No need to argue with anyone or be miffed about why being in a relationship with a boyfriend is not everything it's cracked up to be. It's okay to not have a relationship just like it is okay to have one...or many. Relationships with men should almost be thought of like cake. You don't have to have cake everyday...or you might. You may have some once in a while, or if you're really strict none at all. All of those options are valid.