Sick and Tired of the Disrespect

I've been doing the hard work of leveling up. I've gone to therapy, taken accountability, cutoff low value people, and reflected where I needed to. I consider myself to be level headed, mature, and professional. Many people who know me will corroborate on these facts.

But lately, I'm sick and tired - no, I'm exhausted of the Rampant and growing disrespect that plagues modern day society. There is such a vast dissonance between my rationality and the absurdity that is reality. In truth, women have always had hardships - but I have noticed that society as a whole has become more blatantly disrespectful. It has gotten to the point where I have been avoiding several businesses because there are consistent issues every time. At work, I'm struggling to be given respect when I address issues or ask questions. My frustration is at an all time high.

I tossed aside my pickme ways and I don't think I could beg, "communicate", or degrade myself now for anyone or anything. A bonus was loosing patience for the disrespect. Yet, I still can't fathom why when I'm mentioning a problem to my boss that she can't address the issue or at least give me an explanation as to why she won't even try to resolve it. It simply falls on deaf ears and the issues continue to snow ball. I've had issues with other bosses where they refused to respect my availability- even when it was documented and when I'd also verbally remind them. Of course the guys at work don't have these issues and can slack off and still get whatever they want.

Even when it comes to shopping, I've found myself frustrated at the horrendous customer service, wait times, and sloppiness. I went to pickup an online order and was immediately an employee started yelling at me and being rude from the get go. When I examined the order, I noticed it was completely wrong, so I politely asked about it (with my reciept in hand). The employee, a woman around my own age, snapped back at me and rolled her eyes at me! All because I asked "excuse me, is this the correct order? It looks like it's missing x and y." After I saw her reaction and her hostility, I simply returned it and quietly left.

Ironically, my exes all would say the same thing, "when I'm along, notice no one gives us a hassle. No one's rude to you." My step-dad now will say the same thing. I can't deny that they've been right. Whenever I'm disrespected, it's been when I'm alone.

Anyone else notice how whenever there's a woman in a group of all (or the vast majority being) males, that she can't get a word in edge wise? They'll ignore and even talk over her! Or if they do let her speak, they'll dismiss her. That's also stuff I've consistently experienced in my own life. I was watching YouTube the other day and the one dude makes educational /documentary stuff and he showed of a clip of him at work with his team. I became so disgusted - but not shocked - when I saw a woman in her 20s (the only woman on the Team) trying to share her thoughts like everyone else and she was talked over by the youtuber and the other dudes helped him. She kept pushing and speaking and then they all just ignored her. It was upsetting and I immediately un subscribed.

The other pickmes are sometimes worse than the men. They're rude and nasty to you for no reason. They'll crowd you, won't move when you say excuse me, cough on you, and I even caught another woman and her daughter trying to steal clothes out of my cart at a TJ maxx! I'm talking about the type of people that just try to stir things up and go out of their way to cause issues - and I'm a quiet and minds her own business type of person.

I'm not very confrontational. And I know when we say one thing or ask one question regardless of how polite it is, that we get deemed a "karen". So I've just started walking out whenever an employee gives me a attitude off the bat or starts making up "rules" that don't exist (ie bath and body works coupon any free item under $7 and started making up rules. Woman and her scrote in front of me had the same item and coupon and no issues. I just said okay, Never mind, and quietly walked out). I'm not arguing, I'm not making a scene, I'm not begging, and I'm not explaining. I've worked retail before and there's no reason to power trip or be so rude especially to customers who have been nothing but polite and patient.

My ex saw this happen one time. He was coming back from the bathroom when I was in the checkout and a lady cashier was hassling me over my $50 bill, saying it looked fake, and started threatening that the manager if she comes over wont accept it. Also made rude comments about the outfit I was buying saying "that can't be the right price" even though there was a ton and they were all marked it. Ex came over said politely "what's wrong" and she immediately full stops and says there's no issue, takes the money, and finished the transaction.

I drive to other areas now for certain things. I shop online a lot more. When it comes ro my job I'll mention things twice but after that I don't beg or "nag". I just chalk it up to "I tried" because ultimately I can't force anyone to listen to me or return the same level of maturity that I've given them. I don't chase anyone. My boss lately has been starting to act frustrated and passive aggressive with me because I think she expects me to basically coddle and babysit some of work-scrotes. I've simply started telling her that they've been trained, I'll show them what they need to do for the task, and then I'll remind them a 2nd time. Beyond that, it's me telling my boss during meetings that hey that scrote wasn't listening here's the proof you need to take action (basically a write up). We have had issues before where a coworker scrote almost got me in trouble - she expected me to chase /hunt him down and I wouldn't go that far (separate post).

I expect that "you teach others how to treat you" and that you also "treat each other how you want to be treated" so I try to be polite and respectful to everyone I met. I expect to have adult level conversations, I expect that I'm given some sort of answer when I have a question, I expect to be heard out at least.

It's deeply hurtful to be ignored, gaslit /not believed, and have people be so rude so quickly. I'd rather just get up and leave.