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I've seen a recent surge of pickme women posting on here and then getting upset, or outright deleting the post when they don't get the validation they want. Literally guideline 6 of this forum is that your pickme actions are going to be called out and discouraged by other forum users.
I get that some of you want genuine advice, but FDS is a very tough love environment. We're going to tell you what you need to hear for your maximum benefit. If you don't take it that's your decision but I think it's a bit silly to come on here, act like a pickme, then get mad.
Right? I really don't know what they're expecting from us tbh. This is the meanest female only space on the internet and we constantly discourage pickme behavior. However, they post crazy stuff on here and still get mad when we call them out. I have said this before and I'll say it again: if we let anyone post whatever they want even when it goes against FDS, this will turn into another bs libfeminist space where porn, poliamory, sex work and many other things are normalized. Besides, this just opens the door for scrotes to post the most disgusting shit while pretending to be women. We have to respect each other 100%, but calling out someone for posting about things that are against FDS is okay. Everyone's allowed to make whatever choices they want, I really don't understand why they want our approval and validation so badly.
We’ve given them POLITE genuine and sincere advice like hey it‘s not a good idea to romantically go for your teacher’s assistant nor is it professional and they still get mad triggered and gaslight us for being reasonable 🙃
I so appreciate the tough love I've gotten here.
FDS, radical feminism, and liberation work is not supposed to be easy. You should feel challenged. And if you don't, you need to go deeper.
If you're upset, that's a gift. Explore why you feel that way. Choose introspection over speaking for a long while. Peel the onion. Embrace the challenge of breaking your world view.
Meh not really a bad thing - most people start out as pick mes but keep coming back to FDS because they sense the truth in it and then over time grow spines. FDS must be getting more new traffic, which is great for women as a class!
I remember posting something pickme-ish when I first found this forum. The comments were tough love and stung, but I appreciated them. I certainly wasn't trying to pick fights with the commentators. Rad fem is hard and doesn't always feel good, but it's improved my life tremendously.
Some of the pickme shit has gotten a lot as late tbh. Idk if we're just spreading more and/or trolls. I think the only criticism I have of this forum is that sometimes some of the advice people ask isn't necessarily an answer by FDS principles but something they should consider getting from therapy because what they're seeking isn't something we can easily help with. We think all women are worthy but if you don't feel like a Queen or don't deserve better, nothing in the handbook can help you. The handbook is great for learning the rules of the dating game, not so much self esteem or mental struggles. Sometimes it's easy to say "read the handbook" but for that person, it's not necessarily a point and click answer. I'm sure I've done it before, but it does get exhausting seeing people posting the same question again. I'd hope people also search for answers before posting, even tho the search is a little dogshit. Also someone needs to point a big old download link somewhere to the handbook. My friends couldn't find it, I had to send it via email to do so.
It's so hard to read a type of post over and over again when the guy is clearly future faking the woman.
Where are they? so far I've only seen a mother who wants to score her scrote son a date. And calls him hygienic because he has a skincare routine..😑