OLD is overwhelming

So I tried OLD again and I’ve been getting overwhelmed by talking to more than one person at a time. I usually pick one person that I like and I’m not sure if that’s the issue. I still talk to a couple others but then if I don’t answer them within a couple hours, I’ve gotten blocked before. And then if I do see that one person I put all my attention into they end up ghosting me or having underlying manipulative behavior. I try to keep my options open to other people but then I tend to forget things about the other people. Almost like you need to make an excel spreadsheet. It just gets tiring after a while.