So I tried OLD again and I’ve been getting overwhelmed by talking to more than one person at a time. I usually pick one person that I like and I’m not sure if that’s the issue. I still talk to a couple others but then if I don’t answer them within a couple hours, I’ve gotten blocked before. And then if I do see that one person I put all my attention into they end up ghosting me or having underlying manipulative behavior. I try to keep my options open to other people but then I tend to forget things about the other people. Almost like you need to make an excel spreadsheet. It just gets tiring after a while.
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You can use OLD whichever way you like. The truth is most men on OLD are either catfishes, have some deal-breakers preventing them from finding a gf irl, are actually taken but didn't disclose that to you, or are scammers so don't expect too much from OLD. Yes it's exhausting especially given how so many profiles have red flags and the ones that don't rarely message me first or reply.
Have a look at this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/burn-the-haystack-with-dr-jennie-young/id1726065949?i=1000651408310
It's about a method to find someone that doesn't suck in OLD. might be useful.
You can use OLD whichever way you like. The truth is most men on OLD are either catfishes, have some deal-breakers preventing them from finding a gf irl, are actually taken but didn't disclose that to you, or are scammers sp don't expect too much from OLD. Yes it's exhausting especially given how so many profiles have red flags and the ones that don't rarely message me first or reply.
I agree, it is. The way I do it is by reading every single message, seeing who I think I might be compatible with (either by looks or message, then I click on the profile to investigate further). From there, you pick the man who:
1. Doesn't ask for extra pictures (VERY IMPORTANT). Any guy who asks for extra pictures is an f-boy and boundary pusher. Insta block any guy who asks for more pictures than what's already on your profile.
2. Is planning to take you on a nice date to somewhere you want to go.
3. Is the tallest, best looking, wealthiest, etc, up to you.
Then set up multiple dates with multiple men in case one flakes.
I just went out to a nice restaurant and museum I've been wanting to go to for a very long time off OLD. Like literally, just got home now. He drove more than an hour to pick me up, paid for everything, and he didn't even touch me, then dropped me off "home" (I gave him a fake address, I walked to some random person's house). No sex or kisses. I just sat back and watched him court me. My hair even looked awful (way more awful than usual) and I smelled like sh*t because of how hot and humid it was. Doesn't matter. Still got treated like a lady. I spent exactly $0 today and put 0 effort in, and that's the way it should be for every woman.