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recently i posted about a work scrote who basically started showing interest in me and then basically hid from me when i needed to discuss something with him at work. now, he decided to pop back up, and went above and beyond today to help out (when he wasnt actually needed) in what was probably an attempt to impress me.
he was his usual chatty and friendly self and did a good job, but he only talked to my coworker - the entire time. he kept looking at me and smiling at me, but didn't say a word to me. I carried on with my work but noticed he started talking louder and got closer to where I was and still, not a peep.
my former pickme self would have been absolutely bambozled at him for these "mixed signals". i would have reached out to friends and had long discussions on what it meant and what to do. of course, it would have left me wondering does he actually like me?
there's 2 questions here to address: does he like me? and what about the mixed signals?
yes, he likes me. 99% of men like you. lvm will sleep with anyone- or try keeping you as an option to sleep with. men can be turned on by just about anything. knowing this, him "liking you" isnt flattering, special, or interesting.
as for "Mixed Signals" there is no such thing. when a HVM is interested in you, his intentions will be clear and consistent. you will not ever have to be wondering the relationship status or about how he feels about you. instead, you'll feel confident and loved. he should just put you at ease - his actions will prove his affection and care for you. also, a HVM will pursue you. you will not have a single doubt or question in your mind about how he feels about you.
with this work scrote, the previous post explained that he works at a nearby job and sometimes there are issues that my job and his job will work together to resolve. if he was ACTUALLY interested, he would have made attempts to talk to me. despite having many oppurtunities to talk to me, he will often talk to my coworker and not initiate any conversation with me. it seems that he even hid from me when i was instructed to talk to him, which is absurd in itself, and even stranger to hide from someone that you "like" (see the dissonance - he doesnt actually like me enough).
there's other men that will come into my job and strike up a conversation with me - and im not interested in dating right now, so i'm professional but short and sweet. they pretty much then finish their business and let me be. this scrote though, in all his oppurtunities, has not even tried. funny enough, his coworkers though often come over and make friendly conversations with all of us. all of us know all of them - so i find it especially strange he does not come over at all.
i've also noticed that when anyone comes over to talk to me - its anyone BUT him. he will come over to speak when he knows my coworker is there, but will send his women coworkers or the super young male employees to see me.
a hvm - even if he was married or not romantically into me - would have definitely acknowledged me even in a "good morning" or "how are you?" level. bare minimum. and definitely would not have avoided me/hid when it was his job to handle a quick work discussion. the fact he chose to ignore me and avoid me shows who he really is - a LVM - and what he really thinks of me (which is he doesnt think of me as anyone worth even a bare minimum "hi").
we could further delve into this and say that he's trying to get me to chase him. or we could say he just wants an ego stroke, or is red pilled, or maybe does like me but is real shy, or whatever. we could type here all day trying to discuss why or how but its pickme to make excuses for men (ie hes JuSt ShY or isnt ready blah blah)... none of that specifically matters. what matters is that his actions show that he is NOT a HVM. (and have proved it over and over). and lastly, remember this has nothing to do with YOU. it's never been about how you look, act, where you work, etc, it's not because you did/didnt do something.... HIM not being HVM is a HIM problem it is irrelevant of you.
if you see that a man is NOT HVM that is ALL you need to know. if you arent sure if he's HVM this post with my example showed you my train of thought. this is also a good way to analayze a man when you have a crush - it always helps me stop being a fool!
Since I have told myself: "Mixed signals=no", I have yet to feel humiliated by that nonsense. It's the hack they don't want you to know about lol. It has been a great tool for preserving my dignity with people in general for years now.
Here’s the sad truth for pickmes: if he’s shy, he’s low value. He needs to man up and ask a woman out. Shyness is not something you want in a provider and a protector.
I am so sick of us women being told by society to cOmMunIcatE and to never trust our intuitions. I was talking with a co-worker yesterday who is going through a divorce. Her ex, who leeched off her for 15 years, is trying to take everything she has from her. And I could sense that a subconscious level she "gets it"- but the programming is so intense that she's talking herself out of questioning it. She kept saying "I know he's a good guy and I'm sure we'll be able so settle things amicably"- girl, he bled you try for 15 years while cheating on you! And now he wants you to PAY him for that honor. It is sickening. But his "mixed messages" are confusing her... because she wants so badly to see the good. I wish she would have listened to me. I can tell this is not going to go well for her.
One of the most important messages is in this post right here: internalize the idea that mixed signals mean a man is NOT worth your time. I'd also add that, if he is very consistent and sending clear interest but then starts to change, detach immediately and listen to your intuition. If it starts to feel like he isn't as invested, get out. We cause ourselves so much pain by holding on, waiting for it to go back to the way it was, or making excuses. I think one of the greatest acts of love we can do for ourselves is to let go of men and no longer obsess about their every action. Any man making you feel uncertain or question yourself is not for you.
What a weirdo! He probably read something in a PUA manual about getting women to chase you "bro, if you want women to be totally into you, listen to me. What you wanna do is say hi to everybody BUT her. She's gonna wonder why you didn't say hi to her, so now she's thinking about you. Keep making eye contact and speaking loudly, so she keeps noticing you. But don't talk to her, cos you want her to think you don't like her, so that she goes out of her way to gain your approval. Women are like that, bro. They wanna please men, and she's so used to everybody simping, that by being rude to her, you'll stand out as different from those other simps. An alpha male. Then when she tries to get your attention, let her know that you have other options. This'll keep her working hard to keep your approval, bro trust me. Trust me bro, would I lie to you? Would I take your money and give you bad advice so you keep coming back and paying for my courses? Of course not. Anyway, when you finally show her some attention, she's gonna be so relieved that you don't hate her that she'll do anything--she'll probably suck your dick, bro. This is called negging. And if it doesn't work, then you're just gonna have to find a girl with lower self esteem. Be sure to sign up for my next course on "identifying bitches who aren't aren't fucking full of themselves", for only £19.99. And donate to my patreon while you're at it, so I can eat this week--I mean, so I can bring all you alpha males more alpha content". 🥴
When I was younger, I wasted so much time and energy trying to interpret mixed signals. Nowadays whenever I get mixed signals from anyone (not just men), I take that as a sign that they're "just not that into me" and I act accordingly. The amount of time and energy I've saved not trying to read between the lines is unbelieveable. It's also done wonders for my stress levels.
well-articulated.
💯 It's really not that complicated, is it? 👏👏👏
Spot on!
Is there an option for 'keeping' posts? Would really like to refer back to it when need be