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One of the many things men do that grinds my gears is how they gaslight us by saying that we complain too much.
Men shout "not all men" when we complain about men raping, killing, harassing and harming us in multiple ways. Of course they think we complain too much - they don't go through what we go through so they can't relate! They aren't on the receiving end of what they put us through so they can't compute our suffering.
If men had to worry about a woman spiking their drink or a woman weaponising her incompetence or a woman they met on a dating app coming over to their house and stabbing them at random or a woman possibly attacking them at night, when it's just two of them walking down a sidewalk then they'd see that we have every right to complain about their degeneracy.
The only time men take what women have to say about men seriously is when they have daughters. Only then. For a lot of men, what their sisters, aunties, mothers, girlfriends, wives or women unrelated to them go through is not of any concern to them. For many of them, having a daughter is first time they ever admit to themselves or to anyone, out loud, that men are dangerous. Isn't it worrying that men only care when other men affect them personally?
It's very very frustrating and something I despise about them. Anyone else?
It's true the only time they admit it's fucked up is when they're on the receiving end, but it's not because they don't relate, you don't have to relate to someone to realize what they're going through is painful. They gaslight us because: -they're part of the problem and don't want to face consequences. -they believe women are evil and anything that comes of our mouths must be a delusion or a lie. -they view women as irrational and overly sensitive and thus all our emotions towards our problems are us overreacting. -they hate women or don't care and want us to suffer in silence. Etc etc. They just like to pretend they're stupid and genuinely confused because it's convenient, imagine them admitting to being fucked up.
Also, they complain just as much or more about things far less important. It’s not “oh my date might kill me,” it’s “omg my date is five pounds heavier than her picture,” but they say it like those two complaints are equal.
I don't consider it an insult to us but rather to them. If all women do is complain about you, you're failing. 🤷🏻♀️ And anyway, we all know women don't complain
I was reading the comments on a FB post about a only female bus route, men went outrageous because they said it was unfair, and that they didn't see the need of having female spaces in public transport.
Even pickmes were giving their opinions about how they never been stalked or harassed and maybe it's the womans fault because they don't dress modestly.
Just stupid comments, sometimes I wish all men disappear.
It's the "racism isn't prevalent in society today" and you look at them and they're white