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So many men defend one another. And they repeat misogynistic things they hear from other guys. I made a reddit post yesterday about a health sub filling up with misogyny and making it unpleasant for women to use and some guys defended their misogyny. Luckily they got -20 upvotes but some guys gave them awards and tried their best to support them.
The ones who are misogynistic collectively repeat misogynistic stuff. And support other men who do so.
And they parrot repeat how a woman must be very good looking, cook and clean to have a chance with them. Lol
And some women just repeat the misogynistic stuff they hear or they try to convince themselves that it's just the truth. They internalize them and tell them to other women.
Women subreddits are full of women dealing with crappy boyfriends and husbands. If only we collectively defended each other and held men to high standards. Due to the DV statistics we need it much more. To literally protect ourselves and each other.
I'm glad FDS is providing that.
I agree! The one thing I think that men get right and women get wrong is that men usually stick together and stand up for each other, even for men they don't even know. I wish that women were more like that. Unfortunately there are just so many Pick Mes who will side with men they don't even know over women they've known for years e.g. friends and family members.
Men will defend another man who they don't know personally and will never meet irl. That's how strong the bro code is. This is why idgaf about scrotes who cry about false rape allegations, will they ever jump to a stranger women's defense in a news article comment section when it really does happen? No
Dating is like a market. There are plenty of losers who demand the world--but the market won't clear on them. No one wants them, and they lack the political or physical force to do anything about it.
So they all go to Reddit. 😆
Agreed. You know how most women go through a "not like other girls" phase because society tells them that being "a normal girl" is having no personality and basically not being a person worthy of respect and consideration? Well, with boys it's the complete opposite: they're out there, constantly trying to showcase how much they ARE like other boys because it means they're doing everything right. So yeah, men side with other men. Maybe that's also why they don't speak up when "one of the boys" is problematic. They just stay undercover to keep being a part of the group while silently patting themselves on the back for "secretly being a good guy while not ostracizing himself from other men". In short: misogyny, homosocial behavior and self-interest.
And you always have to wonder if a man will defend a harasser or rapist... how many victims of his own does he have? I agree, women should stick together as often as possible. If you have to disagree with a woman, try to do it in a constructive way that criticizes or at least questions her ideas, not her character. Show pick-me's the way by modeling how it should be done.
I'm here to say men absolutely defend one another when push comes to shove, even when they are all wrong and/or engaging in criminal behavior.
I wrote this post recently:
Shit like this happens every day. The incident described in my post is not particularly rare or unusual. When the rubber meets the road, the vast majority of men (even those who you think should have your back) will throw you under the bus and side with their male friends.
Today at work I learned from one coworker that another coworker (female and young) has been feeling uncomfortable around one customer and that he has made inappropriate, sexual comments to her on a few occasions.
I also learned she "didn't want to do anything" and now I'm pushing for that to change because I had a customer harass me today.
I'm not tolerating or being quiet about any of that shit. I refuse to let these things happen and I'm gonna refuse to let things escalate.