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I've been business associates with a couple ladies for about three years now. We recently went out for drinks in a casual setting. We got on the subject of relationships. They're married.
I said I was single because there are no men I'm attracted to. One of the women said, "Oh so you're asexual." I explained that no, I'm just sexually attracted to particular men.
She asked me to describe attractive men. I said tall with muscles and takes care of themselves. That is literally as far as I got when they scoffed at me. One of them said, "Oh so like an elven prince." She was saying I was ordering up a fantasy man by asking for tall, muscles, and takes care of himself!
And I have seen their men! No thank you! Gross! Why is the bar in hell!
I've lost count of the times I've been called "asexual" for not wanting to fuck random men off the street.
The scrotes and pickmes can call me what they want. I'm still not going to fuck random men off the street.
They're just mad they settled.
I am the same way, I don't date men I'm not attracted to. Most of my exes were incredibly sexy to me and JUST my type (I did try a few ugly ones before I realized it's ok to be attracted to attractive people, my libfem phase was hard 😭). Women would SCOFF at the fact that I liked muscular, handsome men who spent more money than I did on cologne, nice clothes, and looking good. The women who complain are always the ladies who have gremlins and goblins as husbands/boyfriends, too. Always had some "a person is more than what they look like" speech to go along with it while they shamed me for ignoring smelly, balding, fat, ugly dudes. Like... ugh.
I had a group of women in their 60's trying to set me up with balding, fat, ugly dudes in their early 30's who ALL lived in their parent's houses because they made such little money while I was 18/19 in COLLEGE and living alone! Their justification was that because I didn't want kids it didn't matter they were broke and ugly and losers. Meanwhile, I was actually dating an incredibly hot, muscular gymnast who was around my age! They thought it was a "shame" because he had "good genetic material" lmaooo.
I say ignore em and focus on only dating men who have that spark that'll turm you on. Physical attraction matters, along with mental engagement. Is it hard? Sure, but you're the one who's gotta date, marry, and fuck em so keep your standards! If those women are ok being with ugly trolls that's their perogative and their bed to lie in.
these women lowered their standards and settled for less and now they expect all women do the same. so the fact you want a healthy human being to spend your life with is considered too much, a fantasy, a delusion. they're unhappy with frogs, but you still deserve a prince, sis!
"Oh so like an elven prince."
"Yeah, human males are just not good enough for me. I have standards, you know. 😉"
p.s. that woman may have used "asexual" as a pejorative, but the pukey-ness of the men around me DO make me question if I'm asexual, lol. I still have generalized sexual desires and cravings for intimacy but I can't fucking imagine kissing these men or smelling them in any shape or form. I keep asking if something is wrong with me. I'm in my 40s and have struggled with extremely, extremely sporadic attraction to particular men. My latest "attraction" had been to a priest but prior to that, it has been literally 15 years since the last time I was attracted to someone, and when I saw him in the library year later, I found him repulsive looking, ironically.
I'm about 5 feet 10 and there is little to no chance that I can get attracted to someone who is not at least 6 foot 2. Even if I were "attracted" to a man who wasn't tall enough, I still wouldn't "be" with him. I need the man to be taller. It would make sex awkward if his face only reaches my chest. I don't know what people's problem is with height preferences. Sure, if YOU don't care about height then good for you I guess, but who cares if someone ELSE does?
It's all projection. Women like this are the worst: they can't imagine elevating their physical standards openly so when someone like you does it, they scoff. Who scoffs at men who say they want women they find attractive? Absolutely no one.
I can't STAND women like this and have removed them one by one from my life.
Oooh girl I feel you! My type of guy is more of a rare type, which results in me not being attracted to the majority of men I meet. I like tall, slender guys with a more boyish face and only either none or a little bit of facial hair, so not the stereotypical bear type. Someone like Timothee Chalamet, not him in particular, but just overall that kind of look lol. I don't find myself attracted to guys who look much different from that type, wtf am I supposed to do, it is what it is. I also don't care that much that I'd adjust my type in any way, I'm not that eager to find someone asap.
Well I'm an elven princess so yeah 🙊
lmfaaaooo I'm so glad moids I've dated at least looked very good. It was the main boundary my pick me self at least miraculously mustered.
Not every girl is going to have the confidence to talk to them either so it's actually not that hard to date a hot guy if you're hot yourself and have social skills tbh.