I'm at a breaking point with men

Keep centering yourself around yourself. Create plans and work on milestones. Find ways to network with women. Start a non digital network with women, also. We need to start to stay connected. Also, keep your standards high because the alternative is so much worse!! As for our male friends, I find, it always comes down to men thinking, “look how perfectly we get along and care for each other, why can’t we be a couple?” You befriend men at great risk. They can’t understand deep friendships with women. To them that’s marriage material. They don’t get that it rarely works like that for us. We are genuinely friendly, deeply caring and not thinking romantically at all. Ironically, it comes back to bite men again when they find themselves longing for female friends and their energy only to find women wary of their motives. Also, they’re stubborn as they’re taught not to take no for an answer in any matter of life. So, It’s best to stay away until you feel like dealing with this.

I know how you feel. Sometimes I'm so horrified and disgusted by the general behaviour of most men that I feel repulsed by the idea of dating a man. The idea of being with someone who doesn't respect me or objectifies me is honestly heartbreaking to the point that I'd rather be alone. As someone who's seen a lot of trainwreck relationships in real life too, it really is scary. I get through it by reminding myself that not every man is a p*rnsick, violent scrote. Even if I never meet a guy who's an actual decent person as well as a good match for me, that's okay. To me, loving myself, being happy, enjoying my hobbies and having a good support network of female friends is much more important than being in a relationship. I keep an eye out, but levelling up and being the woman I've always wanted to be, someone I can really be proud of, is the ultimate goal.

I'm older than most of you probably and in the perimenopause stage of life. I've been reading a lot of peri meno and menopause books. So something happens as we age, we have less estrogen and Estrogen at higher levels, sort of brainwashes you, literally. making us nicer, more compliment and more, likely to want a relationship. I'm now in the stage of life where my anger is not only growing toward men but it is red hot. It is like a light switch when that brainwashing Estrogen diminishes. I now understand why so many middle aged women leave their husbands, they have had enough of their sh*t and there is no longer Estrogen to make them ignore their behaviors. After this Friday, I'm done, simply done. You aren't alone but I don't feel pessimistic what I feel is motivated. To live out the rest of my years as I wish, whatever that is, WITHOUT the burden of caring what a man thinks. My eggshell walking is done.

It's them. It sounds like you need to take a giant step back, take a breath, gain clarity and then intentionally building the life you want. Don't expect to date anytime soon. Just focus on yourself, your life and your support network. Once you've poured your energy into yourself, you won't feel so exhausted with men, and you'll be in a better mental place to meet people organically and make friends. 99% of dudes are trash, so don't bother with them for awhile. The chance of one of them being decent is slim to none. Don't decide anything major about your life until you've had some hermit time to marinate on what you want from life

The problem definitely isn't you. These men out here are pure trash. It's veeeery hard to find one that isn't ruined by misogyny.

I'm in a similar space as you, feeling very down and pessimistic. I just try to remind myself that there is so much power in knowing the truth. Most men avoid women like us because they know we can see right thru them. Deep down they know they are scrotes and they are hoping you are too dumb to see it.

Find solace in your female friendships and take good care of yourself. Take a break from dating if you feel it would help.

Stick with it. Men are fucked all over right now and it won't get better until they choose to be better. The 1970s was similar to this era in so many ways and misogyny was out of control then too. Men attack women when they feel any sort of financial or societal pressure (look up the Calhoun rat experiment). I believe things will improve eventually. At least for a little while, then the cycle will repeat again.

I feel this too. I am taking a break from dating to get in the right headspace. To fall in love with myself. What has helped me is getting involved in a feminist group with women in the real world. The Internet is at times super depressing and anxiety provoking. Do you have a feminist group around you? Maybe you could start one?

Hey..i was just exactly feeling like u for the past 6 mths like also entertaining thoughts of being with a woman. I’ve reflected on my experiences and time spent with females (mostly friendships and family) and males (dates, ex bf, friends) and i realized i’ve often felt happier and fulfilled after meeting females and rarely looked back at any interaction feeling uneasy/pissed. However with males, 8/10 times i always felt uneasy/pissed due to their insensitivity and appalling behaviors that i thought were above them. I’m trying very hard to distance myself from males (except gay men, tbh they are mostly better than straight men) because they are energy/soul sucking monsters!!!

This is such a relatable post for so many of us, so I want to start out by reassuring you that you’re not alone. It’s such a dark period of history for women, and it’s hard to accept the state of things in 2022…at least for me. With all of the global progress that has been made in medicine, technology, aerospace, DNA advancement…it’s so backwards that it seems like women are being shoved backwards towards caves. I place the blame on the patriarch, and I’m fighting it tooth and nail just like you but it can genuinely feel like I’m in a one man army…ahem I mean a one woman army! I know I’m not alone but in the real world, I often find myself to be the sole voice in multiple situations in which I’m battling some type of misogynistic breech against women. I can’t really tell you how to pursue future relationships with men or with women..I’m personally unable to be sexually/romantically attracted to women myself so that won’t be an option for me. I just want you to know you’re not alone and I hope you find the strength here, and other places to keep moving forward.