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I went out to a concert recently by myself. Could I have found a friend to come with me? Sure. Sometimes I just prefer to do things on my own - shocking! Nothing against any of my friends.
I go and enjoy the show, and as I'm leaving, a guy comes up to me and strikes up some conversation. At first it's pretty normal, we talk about the band, whatever. Then he compliments my appearance and asks if I came with my boyfriend. I say no, I'm single. Then he says, so you came with some friends? I say no. This breaks something in his brain.
He seems bewildered that I didn't even come with any friends, I explain that none of my friends knew who the band was or people already had plans. His reply was something like "But even if they didn't know, no one wanted to come out with you?" or whatever. I just shrug and say either way, I also don't mind doing things on my own, I am just as satisfied to do something by myself. I should've walked away because this pissed me off so bad. I don't know or care if he was trying to imply this on purpose but I hated the implication that I am one of the following: a loser with no friends, a person with shitty friends, or a person who is so shitty their friends don't want to hang out with them. It's like he couldn't comprehend a woman wanting to specifically do something by herself without there being some underlying reason. He was in his mid 20's so maybe he just cared more about that sort of thing, idfk.
Then at some point he asked about my family (???) and again tried to ask about a potential boyfriend or whatever, and made some comment about like....me being a young girl just out alone at night in the city. I am in my late 20's with a full time job, my family lives elsewhere, I certainly have many friends who care about me and many friends that I told about the concert I was attending in, in a well known city with a low crime rate, in a well known neighborhood (with tons of people around, even when the show got out) with a low crime rate. Why the fuck would anyone be worried about me being out at 11-12 at night? I do look a bit younger but I feel that I carry myself like an adult so it's not like I have people leering at me thinking I'm an easy young target or something.
Idk, it was giving "trying to figure out how easily I could kidnap you for a couple days". Idk why I bothered to give him my time. I do generally avoid men in public, but I have been wanting to be a bit more comfortable with like just being extroverted with strangers, maybe even flirting here and there when I'm 'out on the town', as I have a discomfort that definitely doesn't help me in my dating life. Instead it just pissed me off lol.
You handled it well. You should be compensated to even have a conversation with him. On an unrelated note, could you teach me how do you go to a concert alone. I can do everything alone accept attend a general access concert alone.