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I hate myself for feeling the way I do because I have a dad who loves me, male friends who look out for me, etc.
But seeing how many men are insufferable in multiple different ways makes me so depressed. I hate that I have a desire for them at all.
I always fear they’ll weaponize my feelings against me. I assume most of them don’t have good intentions.
I’m so broken. I almost started crying. Why should I give men the time of day when I was literally raped and abused by one over a year ago?
I’m sorry, I’m going through something like this myself. Just a deep, visceral disgust collectively for men. I think it’s just a response to seeing clearly, you know? There ARE good men out there (few, but there are), but the overwhelming flood of shit threatens to drown even their potential to help me continue to see them all as human beings. Which is hilariously ironic, when you think about how Scrotes see women.
The older you get, the more life experience you get. The more you learn to center yourself: you wants, your needs, your likes and dislikes. You’ll keep leveling up too which means you’ll keep raising your energy. Adding multiple areas and layers of competencies repels and repulses everyone who is lower value although you’ll have to keep watch for saboteurs and those who seek to hamstring you. You will find people who are at your level or higher. It’s okay to mistrust men as a class after the millennia of shit they’ve done to women and all the projection. They have millennia of shadow work they need to do and it’s catching up to them. You are okay as a person and to feel what you feel.
I'm so sorry you've been through such a taumatic experience... i understand why you hate men so much. i mean, how can we not, right? once you open your eyes to the truth of their cruelty, you can't unsee things and be at piece.
just know you are allowed to hate them. unfortunately, they won't simply die off just because you hate them. and don't hate yourself for feeling that way. if you male friends and your father treat you well, that doesn't mean you have to love men as a group. you hatred is well justified.
i'm so sorry that happened to you.
Men know how to separate class and personal, albeit in a bad way (eg Madonna w**** complex). It's not contradictory to love men who genuinely care for you and women's rights and respect that in not only words but actions too, versus hating the scrotes .
I hear you 💯❤️
This feeling will fade and this hatred will become apathy. You are totally right to be angry, girl I used to cry every night for days because of the trauma this caused me. Now tho? I dont even catch feelings for them anymore, when I talk to a man all I do is analyze him and dissect everything he says and does. Its not even difficult, it just happens naturally.
its really just working through this feeling and then applying the right mindset to deal with them in the future. Vetting men (all of them not just the ones you date) is actually kinda fun and it makes your realize how much power you actually have to protect yourself from them.
Read through the posts here and you will see pretty much every woman here went through the feelings you are describing. Feel the empathy and listen to the advice, it really does work. Just stay away from men right now and keep contact with the ones in your circle at a minimum. It will 100% get easier, you got this!
I feel a lot like this too, though I have at least one good man in my life (my dad). But my own relationships have been so lackluster and unfulfilled, and dating itself has been far worse. I almost feel like quitting to be honest. But I'm glad we have FDS.
You’ve been traumatized and anybody would be with what you went through. I’m furious with you that this happened to you and I’m angry there’s so much acceptance and excuses for terrible behaviour in culture. Youre right to be angry - you should never have been violated. That said, you won’t feel the same intensity forever, but what is tough is culture is very toxic so I would recommend only spending time with people who have integrity, who you trust not to be dogs or pigs And avoid anything where you’re exposed to pop culture like OLD. Its best to be around safe people and go to safe environments. Yes absolute disgusting stuff is normalized and part of pop culture but the special people in life have always been few and far between, the deep people who have empathy have always been the special few. You don’t need the world to be good you just need the people in your life who you rely on to be good. Stick with the people you can trust for now and be very slow to expose yourself to new people. I would recommend avoiding like I said any situations where you’re around too many strangers or acquaintances.