I bought a treadmill and it’s great … but still a symptom of men ruining simple, everyday enjoyments for women

Try bravissimo or brastop, they have most sizes and the prices are ok as well

I had the same problem with exercising. I've found that Freya and Panache encapsulation (rather than compression) sports bras work the best and are the most comfortable. I always found running painful before but since sticking with these brands it's been perfect! It really encouraged me to get back into going to the gym. They're expensive but if you get one in a sale the price is definitely worth it!

I feel your pain, sister. The "bounce" is painful at worst and really inconvenient at best. It took me a while to find the right bra that offers enough support without making me feel like I can't breathe when I'm wearing it. It's actually something I like about the treadmill now: I can work out in any outfit I want - even just underpants and a sports bra if it's warm - and don't have to worry about looking stupid or anyone staring at me.

I'd go even farther an say that "the outside" in general is a man's world and they intentionally make it uncomfortable for us to move in. Barely daring to exist outside makes us a target for harrassment and worse.

Because let's face it: Even simple, normal, innocent things like walking somewhere alone are - depending on where you live - are much more uncomfortable and dangerous for women than for men.

I live in a country where all of the things you describe would be illegal to carry in public. We aren't even allowed to carry pepper spray or a taser. And in terms of self defense only "appropriate force" is allowed meaning I can't do anything to prevent someone from attacking me before he actually does and even if he does I can only use means and force comparable to what he does to me. Hell, if I go jogging with my neighbors' dog and someone attacks me and the dog bites them to defend me, it's the dog who will get punished (and put down if we are really unlucky) and I'm very likely on the hook for my attackers medical bills.

That's the world we live in. It's like they intentionally make any tool to "even the odds" against a larger, stronger attacker illegal for us. This protects criminals.

I sometimes wish I lived in the US or somewhere with a "fuck around and find out" law regarding this. Where, e.g. I can use whatever means necessary to defend myself if someone attacks me or breaks into my home at night and don't have to wait until they actually hurt me.

I also live in a country like that. I believe here we are allowed to carry bear mace. I’ve never done this though. but maybe it’s the same for you

This is how I feel, too. Of course we can accept that we're prey and arm ourselves to the teeth or start travelling in herds whenever we go outside to stay safe(r). But that doesn't make the environment less hostile or our experience less stressful.

I hate that I can't feel safe outside where I live right now because men can't behave. It's not fair. Outside and nature belongs to all of us but misbehaving men turn it into a hostile, dangerous environment for us.

And for me it feels even worse because I grew up in a very rural, but very safe area and nature used to be my escape and I have never felt unsafe there even when I was walking home through the woods alone after visiting a friend as a teenager. It didn't even occur to me. I felt a lot more unsafe in the city or on the bus ride home. The contrast between that and my life as an adult in a not even very large or dangerous city is still shocking to me.