I agree! I’ve been off OLD for a few weeks but I doubt it’s changed much 🙄 Not many guys put effort into their profiles I noticed also. It screams emotional unavailability to me.
It's such a turn off for me nowadays when I come across men who have no idea what they want. Like, it literally makes you look like a confused adolescent. Not a man. I know that 'don't know yet' often is just a masked up way of saying 'i want that kind of hookup where I don't commit but I get all the gf benefits '...But even if I take it in face value - that you genuinely don't know - it's so pathetically unsexy.
Ah yes .... The absolute least amount of effort for sex. That is their MO for life. Huge red flag.
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One time I met with a guy who didn't know what he wanted down to the place he wanted to meet. So I thought, "hmmm *I* know." So we went to the Cheesecake Factory and then to a bar while he paid for everything and at the end of the night he was pissed, texted me saying "I can't believe this happened. I basically spent $150 for nothing. Could've at least fucked me!" Like he could've even gotten his limp whiskey dick up in the first place *eyeroll* What a douche. He finally knows what's what after money's involved lol. Super satisfying block and delete.
Hahaha. This was entertaining to read. Woe is him that a man needs to actually treat a woman to a proper date! Gasp, that costs money!! Haha. But I'm sure he has no issue spending way more on OF and similar type of stuff.
Yikes notice how none of them know and are all in their 30s? I'm still in my 20s and learned so much about who I am, worked through so many of my issues and generational trauma, and really have a solid sense of what I'm looking for. They have no excuse.
It's good you pointed this out. When I see profiles where they "don't know" and/or don't have any bio filled out I immediately swipe left. There's no excuse. They're still f boys that's why. These type of idk guys will string you along and pretend to be on whatever page you are on and when they get bored they'll ditch you for the newest "cool girl" around.
Get off of Bumble and switch to Hinge, then only read the profiles of the men who like you and send thoughtful first messages. It happens so rarely that you’ll not have to read many profiles at all!
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Why I stopped using apps, tbh!
Also, "I don't know what I want right now" is code for "I just want to fuck and leave."
This applies to blank or minimalist profiles, too.
I agree! I’ve been off OLD for a few weeks but I doubt it’s changed much 🙄 Not many guys put effort into their profiles I noticed also. It screams emotional unavailability to me.
It's such a turn off for me nowadays when I come across men who have no idea what they want. Like, it literally makes you look like a confused adolescent. Not a man. I know that 'don't know yet' often is just a masked up way of saying 'i want that kind of hookup where I don't commit but I get all the gf benefits '...But even if I take it in face value - that you genuinely don't know - it's so pathetically unsexy.
Ah yes .... The absolute least amount of effort for sex. That is their MO for life. Huge red flag.
One time I met with a guy who didn't know what he wanted down to the place he wanted to meet. So I thought, "hmmm *I* know." So we went to the Cheesecake Factory and then to a bar while he paid for everything and at the end of the night he was pissed, texted me saying "I can't believe this happened. I basically spent $150 for nothing. Could've at least fucked me!" Like he could've even gotten his limp whiskey dick up in the first place *eyeroll* What a douche. He finally knows what's what after money's involved lol. Super satisfying block and delete.
Yikes notice how none of them know and are all in their 30s? I'm still in my 20s and learned so much about who I am, worked through so many of my issues and generational trauma, and really have a solid sense of what I'm looking for. They have no excuse.
It's good you pointed this out. When I see profiles where they "don't know" and/or don't have any bio filled out I immediately swipe left. There's no excuse. They're still f boys that's why. These type of idk guys will string you along and pretend to be on whatever page you are on and when they get bored they'll ditch you for the newest "cool girl" around.
Get off of Bumble and switch to Hinge, then only read the profiles of the men who like you and send thoughtful first messages. It happens so rarely that you’ll not have to read many profiles at all!
Don't know yet is a way for them to meet you, decide what they want from you and then tell you that's what they want
Tbh I use it too, also because I'm confused! Lol