Have you ladies successfully quit reddit?

Your presence in online male subject or community’s does not solve any issue because those men think that they’re probably doing something right because a woman gives them attention so that confirms in their mind that they have access to vulva’s. It is mostly wasted energy, unless you get redirected to it by asking something on Google. I have deleted the app, I really don’t care what men talk about. Aslong as you are the woman you’ll always be the desired one. You can demand your standards, on whatever subject, whenever they come to you.

I honestly lost all interest the second the FDS sub started cooling down (a bit before it was made private) 😅 You're right; it's not a community you want to be contributing to, at all. You could quit all non-essential phone use for a while cold turkey, which would probably be the most mentally healthy thing... once you get over that initial hump, staying off gets easier. I honestly just spent a bit more time reading the news properly, catching up with friends, and even reading books. Would highly recommend, sis. Don't give up - my mental health is MILES better not having to see that scrotey toxic bullshit everyday.

Yes I have.

If there is a place where women are not safe I'm not supporting it

Yes but first I had to quit everything. I put my phone in complete lock down and basically made it a dumb phone. I basically detoxed from everything for about a month and then started slowly reintegrating and chose to not allow Reddit back in.

Keeping busy really helped. I have a ton of hobbies and designating times for those and prioritizing long walks with my dog, calling friends/family, trying new recipes, signing up for yoga classes, etc. really helped. Also replacing my morning phone time with journal time. It was hard at first and I definitely slipped up (especially on my work computer) and still do but the difference in my mood is night and day.

Yes, after the podcast episode wherein the ladies explained some of the violently misogynistic porn subreddits that exist I know I couldn't support it anymore. I had no idea about those honestly. If you really need a great reason to quit, listen to that podcast if you haven't already, and if you need a bigger push and it wouldn't be too damaging to you, look at some of the subreddits they talked about. That is what so many redditors are on the website for and they are not the kind of people who are worthy of engagement.

Like you, I liked to use reddit for news and engaging with others about various pop culture artifacts. Honestly, I decided I was better of without that because even when the topic was something very benign, there still seemed to be so much toxicity seeping into discussion. I realized I actually enjoy things more when I'm not hearing a constant stream of random opinions about it from people who may or may not have any idea what they're talking about.

I deleted the app. That was pretty much all it took for me. I backslid a couple of times, almost without even realizing whilst scrolling other social media. For that reason and others, cutting down on social media in general has made a positive impact in my life. I have forced myself to start doing something else if I spend more than a couple of minutes on one of those apps, like reading a book, doing some stretches, calling a friend or studying depending on my mood. I use that scrolling urge as a signal that I am bored and I need to find something more engaging to do.

You've got this! It's so hard to quit something that is so ingrained in so many people's daily habits, but it will help you clear your mind of scrote bs and focus your energy on something better.

It’s understandable: reddit is designed to give you little hits of dopamine as people engage with your content (your first upvote! You got five upvotes! You got 25 upvotes! Etc…). Then there’s the faux-positivity (or toxic positivity) on the app, and illusion that everyone’s a big happy family. No surprise that people are groomed into thinking that they’re trans, or enby, or w/e on reddit. More engagement = more social reinforcement = more dopamine. It’s a while before you realize that it’s taking far more from you than it’s giving back. I quit cold turkey when FDS dropped reddit. I had already narrowed my reddit feed down to a few feminist-centered subs, so i thought it wouldn’t be so hard to quit, but i still found myself looking for a short attention-span friendly replacement (which ended up being twitter—not much better).

I find it useful for work-related things and for my hobbies, like language learning. It's actually helped me quite a bit and the advice I get on various subs has changed my life so I'm not going to quit it but that's because I'm not going on there (or really on any social media site) to argue with anyone. Remember that people rarely change. Don't waste your precious time and energy, just block and delete anyone that annoys you.

Reddit is a porn site. It's pornhub with a chat section. Every male reddit user I know uses it for porn. If you're in a male dominated subreddit you are mostly just engaging with porn addicts. Men who socialise online tend to be heavy porn users. Working from home also worsens this addiction. In one tab they are watching a women being raped and in another one they are in a public forum virtue signaling. It's sick.

Surprisingly...quitting Reddit was so easy for me lol! Everything on there was pornified by LVM, and fetishists.

No I deleted it when FDS left. I hate reddit. I hat the stupid orange logo, the braindead group think system and the stupidity on there.

TBH The only reason I get sucked back into it is the hobbies I am into, the latest news often appear there. Also, I like to shop thrifty so there are the communities with the deals watch but I am looking for ways to find better sources that aren't necessarily reddit anymore. Even when I am just harmlessly scrolling for things that I like, reddit shoves in my face a post that reminds me just how misogynistic that place is.

I like the tv show subs on Reddit too and some of the news feeds. That's what drew me in and yes they seem to be better for that than other forums. But I picked up a few stalkers on Reddit and they came out in force once I started posting on FDS. I had no clue before how much they had been stalking me. They engaged with me in forums where I had an expertise in a male-dominated hobby, job, or skill and just being female provoked a lot of stupid arguments simply because they wanted to prove women don't have any knowledge of their pet subjects. I deleted my account I was on FDS within a day or two of FDS change. I was being aggressively stalked for simply responding to an FDS comment that had the men all upset, and decided I just needed to stop being exposed like that. The timing was an interesting coincidence perhaps but it seemed to me the intensity of the attacks had gotten worse. One of the stalkers made clear he was trying to get me kicked off reddit when I didn't even say anything out there. What's the point of dealing with that?

For the most part, I try to avoid debating with men because it's just a waste of energy unless there is a rare man discussing in good faith. I have given up debating certain issues at all. I will discuss them with like-minded individuals to some extent. I did my own research a long time ago. I have my own personal experience, formed my opinions, and feel no need to keep reviewing them against the latest round of why their bad take is valid, especially on gun control, women's health, and children's safety. If it's an issue you feel strongly about, then be confident in your stance.

Understand that many people who want to discuss the issue aren't actually wanting to change your mind, have their mind changed, or share in a constructive dialog. They want to impose their views, appear to be superior, and put other people down to feel better. Some want to stir up arguments to prove their biases. Many discussions online are not entered into in good faith by many participants. When the people who do wish to engage in a good-faith discussion are doing so with bad actors, then the good-faith discussion people get abused, humiliated, and harassed. It is refreshing to find forums where a good faith discussion exists but sometimes even those only exist because the viewpoints allowed are severely restricted. This is the world we live in. The best we can do is to try to figure out what's important to us & why, and take care of ourselves with good personal boundaries.

I find most social media is male-dominated or male-centered. Some other outlets may look better than Reddit just because they don't tolerate the same levels of porn, violent content & hateful content. But few to none are actually beneficial for women, controlled by women, or friendly to women's concerns. Women are wanted because our presence is good for their demographics. Advertisers want to market to women for most of their products and services. But women's concerns are deliberately diminished to continue to control the narrative to keep women bamboozled and at their mercy. I think problems with women being marginalized in some ways have gotten worse since the internet. Conversely, women have been able to share more information about problems common to women because of the internet, like FDS. This is golden info that some women had a good notion of before but it was hard to find for most or connect with women in the know. We are still wading through some murky waters to find each other. There is a lot of free information that took more effort to access from a library before the internet, which is nice and has the chance to improve the lives of anyone who accesses it. Women still are pioneering and carving out our corner of the world wide web. We need to own more of the platforms in order to get our voices heard and respected. Until then we are going to fight just to have a reasonable conversation about issues that benefit women, like having standards in dating and warning each other about the various pitfalls that we face.

I used to go to the fondant hate reddit, but even that was ruined by TRA's on a JK Rowling cake post, saying she was a rotting b**** who deserved crinkly playdough cake. The antinatalist reddit was ruined for me by insane rape apologist mods. Reddit can be okay in certain places. Like hobby reddits or reddits with decent communities like the FFXIV or Stardew Valley reddit. But for the most part it's terrifyingly misogynistic at worst and full of reposts, unoriginality, misinformation, and mob mentality at best. It's terrible for your mental health and actually dangerous, never underestimate the lengths these men will go to dox you. They have absolutely nothing better to do, like maggots feasting on garbage. Just remind yourself, they lie, they can't analyze anything beyond face value, they contradict themselves, perpetuate double standards, and are massive hypocrites. No amount of actual facts and logic you use will convince their puny minds of anything. Like they'll tote their biology as if their strength makes them superior beings and simultaneously say it's wrong for society to care more about male on female violence. See the lack of critical thinking here? I'm sure there's a way to block the toxic reddits from showing up on your feed. Maybe try a hobby OP, one with a good reddit you can browse through and spend your time there instead.

I totally understand what you mean. I think it's better you'd hide the app icon in the folders of your phone so you wouldn't be tempted to access the app. you know like out of sight out of mind. and if you do happen to get sucked try to just follow cute cats subreddits or other soothing subreddits, try not to go to popular as often as it's probably where all the politics gets the spotlight. Lastly, be easy on yourself. even if it's 5 minutes less than the day before it is progress! and soon enough you'd be able to forget that Reddit is even on your phone. These were the steps I have done to wean off using Reddit. :D

There are some subs (women centered, and heavily moderated), that I find very helpful. Justnomil is one of them, along with some others that have useful information that is simply not readily available anywhere else, other than Reddit. I wish that weren’t true, but sadly it is. It would be great if we had an alternative like a woman-only Reddit.

Yup, I just deleted the app today. No interest in going back on there now that FDS has moved.

I have. I come on here or use the girlie gaming discord server. I also read more buzzfeed and bbc

I do still go to reddit but only for boring, non-controversial stuff. Like my local buy/sell/swap, one for vacation deals, some coding subreddits. Nothing to raise my blood pressure.

Reddit is very one sided, they dont let you voice an opposing opinion about anything thatdoesnt fit their narrative, whether its gun control, lgb(t), FDS !

I enjoy politics, slow cooking, news. There are a few Subreddits I really like but I don’t post anymore.