Im a psych student so I'm clued up on a lot of human behaviour BUT I'm so sick of todays dating advice!! I'm pretty clued up or so I thought. Ive found techniques i agree with and that I've used to make sure I pick quality men, protect myself and let LV men go quickly. Ive found I do let LVM go quickly which is great but im no closer to finding someone right for me. None of these techniques are working and I think I know why.. One dating coach I definitely know tells women not to chase but then they are continually telling men in other videos not to chase women either?! Yet they support evolutionary psychology; men must pursue women and not the other way round. This is a theme lately especially with the Andrew Tate philosophies also influencing. Men are refusing to chase/pursue a woman. Like how can these contradictions work in general?????! All this; "feminine, agreeable energy of younger women being mens goals and wants." That they don't want older women who do not bring these things standards because us older women have too much baggage and have had to be masculine to survive after being burnt by these f#$*ers. I'm back to de-centring men again because this whole world of relationships is angering me!!
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The short answer for why these “dating coaches” seem to talk out both sides of their mouth is because they want to tell their audience exactly what they want to hear, which = 💰 💰 💰. They’re banking on the women not watching the videos for men, and vice versa. It’s sort of like the “I have two dates to the prom” trope.
I think most women like to be told not to chase men, because we’re wired not to want to chase men by nature . This is backed up by evolutionary psychology, so it’s the correct answer.
Men also want to be told not to chase women, because of the Andrew Tate philosophy that’s so popular now. It’s laziness and low self-esteem and has nothing to do with their inherent nature.
i feel you, girl! i got tired of the contradictions too. i could never figure out what i was doing wrong for guys to never want anything serious with me even though i seem to be doing everything right. do i decided to focus my energy on other aspects of my life. it was a collective 'boy, bye' and so far, my mental health has never been better!