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Has anyone been in one of these groups before? I'm engaged and not worried about finding my guy on there but I find these groups so fascinating.
I joined one a while ago and was removed because I was commenting saying how ugly and unkempt some of these men were, and how the woman who posted could do so much better.
I recently joined a different group and i'm still shocked by the amount of ugly men that are posted on there. They're usually under 35 but already balding, overweight, ugly facial hair and just generally look like shit. The women that post these guys look like supermodels too!
I wish more women could find FDS because it completely changed the way I think in terms of dating and relationships.
Yeah I think women are socialized to be understanding/nonjudgemental/giving, so women are open to uglier guys but they usually end up getting treated worse by ugly men.
On the other hand, all the short ugly men think they deserve a model who cooks and cleans and does 50/50.
Ugh it’s times like this I get sick of men and their “we need to look like chads and females get laid by looking like beached whales”.
I had to quit them because of the reasons you explain here. All these beautiful intelligent women dating some glaring red flag neck beard noob.
I've never joined any Are We Dating the Same Guy group but I've lurked around. The men being posted there are really gross and creepy-looking. I assume the average guy on OLD looks like that irl. It's a good reminder why you shouldn't use OLD or be desperate for a relationship but I don't think it works in practice. A lot of the SOs of these cheating men will probably not lurk in these groups as they are not aware of the fact that their SOs are cheating.
Yes, I'm in those groups even though I'm single AF and haven't dated in years. Most of the men posted in my area are all middle aged and the women mostly post anonymously, but I'm absolutely sure they could do better. I think if you have to post a man's photo in a group asking if there are any red flags, the answer is already yes, and your gut is probably telling you that already. It helps as an extra background check if I start talking to a man and want to search his name to see if anyone else has had any experiences with him though. So far, I haven't seen anyone I've ever interacted with.