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Women are so often scolded for not being emotional punching bags for others, especially men, because our own mental and emotional needs occasionally take priority (gasp!).
It's super telling that women have often complained about men trauma dumping on them, rarely the other way around (because again, women are raised to believe our feelings don't matter). Yet this is apparently a woman who's all too happy to do it? And to be fair, she doesn't say she only does this for men. Still, it just feels off.
And I know a lot of people aren't keen on small talk. It kinda peeves me when people act like it's stupid and unimportant though- like being nice to others is annoying and a waste of time. It's also telling that women are usually the ones engaging in small talk. I guess the whole post sort of gives me a kind of pickme vibe.
Or else I'm dead wrong lmao. I think I'm just a little burnt out seeing women on reddit try to show how valuable they are for validation, it's sad.
This person is conflating trauma dumping with sharing experiences and having dnms. They aren't the same thing and it's problematic/toxic to think trauma dumping is healthy. No, it's not healthy to take joy in a vulnerable person suffering and spilling every single horrible thing that's happened to them in a mental health spiral. It's narcissistic and a superiority complex to feel good after making someone trauma dump. Her post reads like "I'm just SUCH a good person - someone praise me!" (reminds me of Glinda from Wicked). It's like she gets a high from exposing vulnerable people that clearly need proper help. And as you said, we all know she's just trying to impress men by claiming she's such a "caring" and empathetic doormat...
It feels off because it is off.
I hate small talk as well, but I take it as the 'necessary evil' to getting to know someone. I mean, I'm not just gonna jump right into the deep stuff and someone's trauma especially with a stranger? That seems odd to me to say the least.
Small talk is necessary in the first couple of meetings before actually getting to know someone and even then I would just avoid sharing my trauma with strangers. That's what therapists are for. Yet along trauma dumping, just... no.
So yes, she is definitely giving pick-me and 'not like the other girls' vibes. Kind of sad for her.
Who wants to hear people trauma dump on you 24/7, she should be a therapist and get paid atleast. Like damn, nice women just loving doing free work
I feel like everyone is too serious around me these days. I wish we could just mess around sometimes. At least I have pets that I can have fun with. 😅