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Ask her about "Strong female characters". Bring them up and press her for an answer.
"I think it's just oh-so sad that female characters have to *gasp* "sacrifice their femininity" to be taken seriously! 😢 You can totes have an empowerfulized female character that wearz makeupss!!"
If she has this unoriginal, NPC, copy pasted Pick me "opinion", GET HER OUT OF YOUR LIFE!
Think about the type of man that cries about female characters actually wearing clothes in videogames and movies. If she's pandering to those neckbeards, she'll pander to any man. This is a woman that's desperate for male headpats, and she'll empty out all of her critical thoughts like her brain is a trash bin to get them. Just go to any YouTube comment section if you don't believe me. You'll find dozens of the same comment, almost verbatim, that starts with "as a woman" and then goes on to defend sexual objectification and frivolous time and money wasting beauty practices that men are never expected to do, in the name of "not sacrificing femininity". Not only is it sad, it's downright harmful to women. You're dealing with an agent of the patriarchy.
Ditch her, and never settle for objectification in your media or in real life.
It's also a huge (and common) red flag when you ask a woman about strong female characters or women they admire and they say a blond bimbo or pornstar and how empowered they are because they treat men like chumps, take their money and other nonsense. If she caters to men and has sex with them then men still win. Imagine your cat loves eating birds, feathers really get them going. And an "empowered" bird flies down in front of them with dozens of extra feathers they took hours pushing into their own to make them look extra tasty and they flop around in front of the cat, mimicking an injury so they seem easy to catch. How the hell does that benefit the bird? What benefits the bird is remaining out of reach and staying far away from predators that just want to eat them.
This is actually pretty clever, lol.
As an extension of the same idea I feel like it would be helpful to get a sense of the kind of media she enjoys/consumes, especially when it comes to television and movies.
For me it's kind of a red flag--though I'm not sure how much importance other people place on it--if a woman primarily settles for junk that doesn't pass the Bechdel test (viz. most mainstream Hollywood-type stuff). Lots of popular shows not only have a male protagonist, but have a cast of characters wherein only the men are the ones who actually make decisions, have opinions, form meaningful connections with other characters, and drive the plot forward. I feel like a woman with a few grains of enlightenment in her wouldn't care too much for stories where all the women are relegated to the roles of "nagging wife", "frail old mother", and/or "one-dimensional seductress".
Right yea like even if the female characters are evil like, gimme something!
Side note: I would ask your prospective friend who she would consider to be a strong female character. Some characters billed as “strong female characters” still end up poorly written or obviously objectified.
Some women see the pandering and feel a bit cynical about that phrase, so I would make your judgment more on her specific examples than her reaction to the words “strong female character”.