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A dude approached me on my way home and said I’m very pretty, He loves my bouncy curls asking if it was natural. I said no I sleep with rollers often.
He then said that doesn’t mind taking me out. He was handsome ish, friendly and I thought why not?
I received a call from him later and we had a decent chat, I told him upfront that I expect to be treated and he can back out right now. He was fine with paying because that’s what gentlemen do. So he asked when I would like to meet up.
He suggested tomorrow night, I felt a bit uneasy going on a first date at night with a man I don’t know. I wanted to suggest during day time at a sushi bar and I go home with my own transport. So I said let’s meet up next week in the afternoon.
Then he started to whine like a child being denied lollipop saying No no no and he was babbling that it will be too much of a wait, I could be dead next week and we wont have a chance to get to know each other so to get him off my back I agreed to meet up with him tomorrow night and I closed the phone.
I blocked him on WhatsApp, and I don’t think I don’t need to give another explanation. He send a text on a different number saying “Hey Frizz ball, don’t you think you are being immature right now?”
I felt anger and wanted to ask him if he feels like a hot shot still being on his moms t!t but I decided to let it go. I dodged a bullet Because a man who is into you will not make next week a big deal. He will not insist in picking me up at night with his car, instead of day time where it’s safe. He would agree on any day to meet up, even if I wanted to schedule a date weeks later. He will not drop his mask and give me a belittling name. And If he can only meet up at night because of his job or other obligations he would politely remove himself from the situation and say thanks for my time.
It sucks but being mildly attractive and pay for a meal will not compensate for his unhinged behaviour.
The first red flag to me was when he asked if your curls were natural. That was totally a neg. The second neg was when he said he didn't mind taking you out. Excuse me? It's as if he is doing you a big favor. 🙄
Also, LOL with the name calling. Frizz ball? What is this, middle school? Who's the immature one here? Sounds like projection.
Glad you exited quick. He sounds like a psycho. Stay safe!
What an absolute ass! You did a great job dodging that bullet. So gross how he tried to use the very thing he said he liked about you to hurt you. And I'm proud of you for taking the high road. He sounds like he could have become dangerous.
Wow he sounds VERY unhinged and manipulative so its good you set your boundaries bc it brought out his scrotery fast. You matrix dodged a bullet!!
Frizzball? Seriously?
What do you mean by saying you tell him how you expect to be treated?
Glad you dodged the bullet on this one.
that was a Queen move! well done 👑💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
From someone who has dated an abuser I can tell you right now that you dodged an abuser. They cannot take no for an answer. Someone made a great post about it earlier today. Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That mentions it's the earliest way to test if someone is an abuser. Say no, which you did. You said no, take me out during the day and he got upset. Clearly his intentions with you were bad if he insisted on picking you up in his car and taking you out at night ONLY. His impatience indicates desperation for seggs. Also make sure to never give out your real number to men. I have downloaded the Text Now app, much easier to use than Google Voice in my opinion. I have that number memorized.
Reminds me of a reel on ig with the caption "how quickly a man snaps you back into reality when he reveals he's just like all the other men"