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This is mostly in reference to lvm but it applies to lv people in general. Your silence is very loud. Ive only ever gotten respect from people when I was ready to cut them off at a moments notice.
They all inevitably played victim to and tried to make me seem like the bad guy to other people. Im finding that talking doesn't do anything. I'm learning to be quiet and speak with action.
I'm an introvert, very shy. So im used to people accusing me of being stuck up and thinking I'm better than them. I never say these things first, they do. And now, I'm going to continue doing that
Maybe I am better than them. Nobody who doesn't think that would tell you you think they're better than them lol
It so odd to me that I've gotten the most results when people think I look down on them when I really don't. But that's when they suddenly want to please me.
So, use that to your advantage. You don't actually have to be rude or mean. But be silent, and let people work for your attention.
This is so true. I’m mildly on the autism spectrum and when I was younger, I wanted so badly for people to like me but they kept me at arm’s length or treated me like I was beneath them.
The older I get, the more I’ve developed a subtle “I’m not interested in talking to you” attitude, with both men and women. I don’t mean to, but like you, I’m just introverted and usually have my mind on other things. Surprise —- now people try very hard to befriend me.
It’s especially true with men. Men constantly complain about how much they hate stuck-up women, yet I always get treated so much better by men after I’ve realized we aren’t at the same level of success and I am not really interested anymore. And I don’t make six figures, so for me that bar isn’t even that high. I’m polite, but there’s probably something subtle about my attitude that comes across as “I’m above you” and they are attracted to that. When men say “Women say they want one thing but actually want the opposite” they are talking about themselves — projection as always.
I had no idea silence was such a powerful weapon until I tried it out. I ignored a dude who threatened to assault me in anger and a week later he was nice again, calling me miss, being polite greeting me like he never said those things a week ago. Yet he wonders what has gotten into me.
I kept ignoring until I got my diploma and I've never looked back, he then tried to test the water by letting one of his pals greet me and when I greeted him back he thought he could make me speak to him again, I just gave him a glare and ignored his attempt to talk.
Lol I should have ignored more people but from now on I will, Men are ruthless ghosters and you shouldn't feel obligated to be the biggest person, just stop talking to them when disrepsect is served. Let them figure out what they have done wrong.
I absolutely love this! I do this as well 🤣
Not always on purpose. I'm actually just shy and introverted as well.
Especially when people, particularly men are badly behaved. I messed up the other day by continuing a conversation with an LVM but that was because I haven't interacted with scotes in a while. It left me drained for hours from having a very general conversational point derailed and being so gaslit. But toxic/insecure people usually grovel after I cut them off for doing something shitty. Idk why. And when men say/do something controversial like "oh I think women have more rights," I don't take the bait by reacting. I simply say "ok." And I walk away. Or I say nothing and walk away. They enjoy draining and getting a reaction from women. Nothing crushes man's ego more than being ignored or treated like he doesn't exist.
Also, I have found that there are certain people who love to take the opportunity to talk over others when others are speaking. The combination of silence and just looking straight at them with an, "As I was saying..." sort of expression makes the interruptor look like an ass.
I have boss like this. Most of the time, she's very talkative and friendly, but when I'm talkative and friendly back, she's acting weird, like if she respects me less. Once I'm quiet and ignoring her, and maybe nodding to whatever she has to say, she's friendly again. It's so strange.
Just want to add something to this, cause idk, sometimes being quiet can get such a bad rap. I'm still forever worrried that people find me boring because I'm not saying much. Or experiencing peopel who think you're just a pushover, becuse quiet = good, or they think because you're not speaking that you have no thoughts in there or something (when really, i have TOO many thoughts in my damn head) and get angry when you put your foot down on something cause they have their own ideas about how you might bend to them.
The "boring" one is quite hard for me to deal with tho, especially when it comes to dating, I feel like it's the vibe I give even though all you have to do is get to know me and I will talk more easily. I feel like I'm very interesting and have cool hobbies, but people don't care to know that about me...
Don't get me wrong, I understand where you're coming from. And I've even had people I genuinely like say to me "I hope she likes me" because they thought I might not. But it's definitely not as often when it comes to men.