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Thank you queens endlessly for your support and advice. I did it. I finally went NC with my narcissistic parents again(BLOCK AND DELETEE BYEE)and I can finally have my hard earned peace back. I'm already leveling up in every aspect of my life. I don't ever have to worry about getting yelled at, harrassed, belittled, devalued and attacked by them ever again or any of my other shitty family members.
Since they kept holding a car over my head, I managed to buy/finance a reliable car and I am thanking my past self for diligently saving money and building up my credit over the years. I just moved into my brand new, lovely one bedroom apartment too! Unexpectedly, my first month of rent is free and I got a raise at work which helps me out so much. I just know the universe is supporting me in cutting off those who are harmful to my wellbeing. It is going to be so rough working while going to school full time but I know I can do it.
(Just in case: 🧿🧿🧿 lol)
I wish I could tell my past self this: NEVER break no contact with anyone who harms or abuses you. Never let anyone pressure you into going back to them. They will pretend to be remorseful at first and be even better at keeping a mask on the second or third time around you come back just to get you to stay. Once you trust them again or they have you in a vulnerable place even financially, their abuse will ramp up tenfold.
ALWAYS priotize yourself and your wellbeing. I know now to never allow disrespect in my life ever again. People who disrespect me or even terrorize and control me don't even get to be a background character in my own life. They don't get to have ANY power over me! And if they're going to villanize you for having boundaries and standards, enjoy your villaness era ✨
There’s nothing quite like having your own peaceful sanctuary, free from conflict and stress-inducing people. So happy for you. May the positive developments continue 💕
Congratulations on getting out! Speaking as someone with a narcissistic mother, I have some insight into what you must have gone through.
NEVER break no contact with anyone who harms or abuses you. Never let anyone pressure you into going back to them. They will pretend to be remorseful at first and be even better at keeping a mask on the second or third time around you come back just to get you to stay. Once you trust them again or have you in a vulnerable place even financially, their abuse will ramp up tenfold.
ALWAYS priotize yourself and your wellbeing. I know now to never allow disrespect in my life ever again. People who disrespect me or even terrorize and control me don't even get to be a background character in my own life. They don't get to have ANY power over me! And if they're going to villanize you for having boundaries and standards, enjoy your villaness era ✨
This part of your post is worth repeating, not just for people from narcissistic families but anyone who's escaped any kind of abusive relationship, be it a romantic relationship, family relationship or friendship.
So happy for you. I know life is going to get better for you because of all these things you are doing for your wellbeing and happiness.
Hey, good job, I was thinking about you! I haven't talked to my family in about four years. I'm moving in with a coworker so we can both save on rent, and coworkers are more supportive of me than my family was when I was roughing it out with small kids.
Good for you! You've got this! Peace of mind is probably the most important thing in life. To have to feel so disconcerted in your own home... I've been there. All it does is stifle you. Better to struggle and know that at least home is safe ❤️