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I just broke up with my boyfriend of six years. Everyone kept asking, "what happened??"
Nothing happened, at least nothing huge recently between me and my ex. I have been working extremely hard on my mental health and self esteem for the last three years. I have been going to weekly therapy, monthly psychiatry, reading as much as I can, and overall trying to figure out how to be the best version of myself that I can be, and defining to myself how my values and morals also reflect that.
Through all this, I realized that I was unhappy in my relationship. My ex was willfully not meeting any of my (clearly communicated many, many times) needs, because he hadn't had to before I started working on myself (I'd just stay with him anyways, so he never faced any consequences), and thus he was getting away with less than the bare minimum. I was unfortunately brought up with the idea that suffering is good, especially if it's to make men happier/more comfortable (toxic Christianity at its finest!), so it took me even longer to accept that my unhappiness is something that MATTERS! It is more than enough of a valid reason to take action!
So, I finally said no to the unhappiness, and to the man who refused to meet my needs. I broke up with him and said goodbye to the last six years together.
People also asked me, "are you okay??"
I am doing so well. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off of me. I feel free. I feel like I can fly. The only times I've cried weren't out of sadness or loneliness, they were out of pride for myself and how far I've clearly come in my journey. I'm... Happy. And that matters more.
I am HERE for these kinds of success stories!!! I absolutely love reading about other women’s level up journeys! I know I am some internet stranger but I am so sooooo proud of you sis! Keep conquering all your goals, the world is yours! 💪
Major congratulations to you! I did the same around six years ago (left a marriage instead of a boyfriend) and have ZERO regrets. Now I'm with someone else and it's amazing how easy and great life can be when you're not constantly forcing it to work or questioning yourself.
Congratulations to you for choosing yourself, Queen!! I’m so happy for you and the journey that you’ve embarked on. The love we pour into ourselves is the best investment we can ever make. Men like this absolutely know what they’re doing. You’ll never regret freeing yourself from someone like that. Cheers and hugs to you! 🤍
" The only times I've cried weren't out of sadness or loneliness, they were out of pride for myself and how far I've clearly come in my journey. "
This makes me so happy to read !
I've gone through something similar lately. I was with my ex for four years, I stayed way longer than I should have because I was scared to be alone and change was uncomfortable.
I spent lockdown by myself in my apartment, and I was in a way, forced to get to know myself and come face to face with some hard truths. The more I worked on myself, the more I drifted apart from my ex. I was so scared of being alone, but now that I am, I couldn't be happier.
Good for you. Keep on going living your life on your terms :)
Hell yes! So happy for you lovely!!
Congratulations! You were in forever girlfriend territory as well. Onto greener pastures ☀️☀️☀️
Im very happy for you!!! Now that the heavyweight is gone, go and fly high, to a better you! ✨✨✨
WELL DONE!!!
You are so inspiring.