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This video went viral last year:
I consider her views FDS-aligned. In my opinion, her rules are just rules for common decency. An HVM who is in love with a woman would find the rules easy to follow.
I like that she's not afraid to be outspoken about her standards.
summary of her rules (edited for conciseness):
Block anybody you had a romantic interaction with. Obviously people you've slept with are a no-no, but if I found out you held a bitch's hand, and you're still following her, you're done.
No following new women since the day we started dating. Period.
No searching girls' names in the handlebar. What are you searching for?
No liking girls' photos. Every guy knows girls don't like this, so the fact that you're continuing to do it, knowing—internationally—women don't like this, is a slap in the face, so period, point-blank, no.
No story replying.
No more than one girl per scroll on your [Instagram] Explore page. I know that your Explore page is what you click on. Want to know how I know? Because one time, I asked a guy to stop, and he did.
If someone posts more than one bikini pic in a row—you must unfollow her.
No clicking on girls' Linktrees.
Whew! It’s giving boyfriend policing but also she’s not wrong. I’d carefully add: if we hold the personal standard of “he’s gotta organically be head over heels about me, or bust,” then there’s no need to TELL a dude any of this.
The right kind of guy who likes a woman for real will not be exhibiting these behaviors once he’s met her. If he is, ghost/block/delete. No warning. Period.
I want everyone to know that there is a specific subsection of men who will go along with rules that a girlfriend lays out in this aggressive manner, giving him a 10-point list and putting it all over tick tock, just to give her the illusion of control and power. Behind the scenes, he'll still dog you out, he'll still cheat on you. In my opinion, and the opinion of the rules authors Ellen fein and Sherry Schneider (they posted about it on Instagram), it's best just to observe what a guy does and reject him if his behavior online is unbecoming. For example, my ex-boyfriend seems to have this bizarre habit of following raunchy Instagram models and then unfollowing them. I remember in his keyboard, his most recent emojis were the sexting emojis. This was bizarre because he never uses emojis via text message and he told me it was probably just from old messages from a long time ago and I brushed it under the rug because we weren't exclusive then and it's not illegal for a man to send hot messages. My point is, I could have made a 10-point list of rules for him to follow and all he would have done is call me a controlling, unreasonable girlfriend and still dumped me. Instead, just notice the behavior and dump him.
If you have to give him a bullet point list on how to be a respectable man, he's not a respectable man. Date one who is pre-programmed with respect. He will either comply with the list and still send DMs, just be more secretive, and he will be laughing at you that you think you're in control. Or he will not comply with the list and will verbally abuse you. Better just to dump him if he's following a million Instagram models and posting pictures with his ex-girlfriend or whatever the f***. You can't change a man, just observe who he is and dump them if it's not acceptable. Why should you waste any time being a dating coach for a man?
"Best case" scenario is that he complies eagerly with your rules. Congratulations, you now have a son, not a boyfriend. Have fun literally coaching him on how to be a respectable man in every single aspect of his life. When you guys are 50 years old are you going to have to coach him not to look at the young women's butts in yoga pants at the gym? Not to try to f*** your daughter's friends single mom? This is what I'm saying, all of my sexual attraction goes away the instant I feel like I need to teach or coach him how to be a decent human being. Are men having to train you on this stuff? Are men giving you 10-point lists telling you to cover yourself in public and don't look men in the eyes? No that's insane.
Also, if you do have a healthy, normal boyfriend who is a respectable man he's not going to be engaging in these behaviors anyway. So you don't need to make him feel like the walls are closing in and you don't trust him if he's not already engaging in this weird thirsty Instagram behavior. I'm specifically talking about a high value man, is not going to want to feel constantly accused of things he's not even doing.
Just date a man who comes pre programmed with respect and decency. All this phone policing is making my pussy dryer than the desert. I want boyfriend, not a project or a
My bf follows a female musician who doesn't post anything remotely sexual, in this case blocking her and never clicking on her bio would be weird. But yeah if by "girls" they mean models and thirst traps, sure. The thing is tough, when he is decent, he's not gonna be invested in those accounts anyway, and doesn't need the "rules". If he needs rules, he's already not up to standard. Also let me just say that this sounds a little like every woman on social media exists to tempt and seduce taken men (or that men ONLY follow women out of sexual or romantic interest), which is a little overblown imo. I'd much rather see a man have normal, appropriate interactions with women than shield him from every possible point of contact with a female. Of course, following explicitly sexual accounts is still a hard no.
I agree with all of these and my boyfriend doesn't do any of them despite me never bringing it up (and would you look at that, despite being a dispositionally jealous person I've never really felt jealous with him). The thing is though, I wonder if it's a good idea to post about this publicly - it is good that women know they totally can have standards like this and expect to meet guys who naturally follow them, but it's probably not good that LVM know women out there expect this since they'll know what sorts of behaviours to hide and how to manipulate them.